why we need more steady people

well said

And we miss you too

Well, Dennis is there for EVERY post-op meeting (wed nights, saturdays) and many of the pre-op meetings as well.  He attends many of the cooking classes.  It just so happens that he had a wedding to attend this past saturday.  Not to put too fine a point on it, but if you attended meetings at all regularly, you'd know how odd it was to have a meeting that he wasn't at.

And Shauna has been very ill and not able to make the drive.  However, her support presence continues to be strongly felt by many of us on these boards and via email.

I really don't wish to sound *****y, but I don't think I've seen you post on this board very often, and don't recall meeting you at any of the support meetings.  If you're complaining that you don't get the help sometimes that you need, realize that YOU need to be in the driver's seat for getting that help.  That means reaching out to the support community.  You don't need to be outspoken to do that - but you do have to ask a question or ask for support, because if you don't we have no way of knowing you need it.  There are many good people - including but not limited to Dennis and Shauna - who have a ton of knowledge, support, and guidance to offer.  We're here, we're waiting - just ask.

Karen

Well I can not speak for anyone but myself--I was an incredibly active poster on this board but like others have said sometimes life and issues just take over to a certain extent...my love and need for this board have never waned and even though with my schedule it is often difficult to make meetings--I do come to the board everyday even if time does not allow me to post as often (That and evil computer issues!!!LOL)

Support is and will continue to be a vital part of this journey for many of us. I need support everyday and coming here and reading the posts and replying as much as I can helps me in a big way...if you want you can always pm if you need someone to talk to or listen...i'll give u my cell#. Support is so important and we are all here to support you and each other!!

Laura

 As an outsider who happened to stumble over this public board, looking for support, the rule is:"What happens in group, stays in group!" Confidentiality runs in every direction. Your concerns should be saved for the privacy of group.

hey Kathy
whats up, you got my number u know u can call me anytime I will be glad to help u, if u like I can even get some people & we can aome to you for a support meeting
Susan

I am truely sorry for all the toes that u all thought i stepped on, I truely thank u for all ur imput an the little support i did recieve. And sauna i just miss u an do understand your situation again i'm sorry for all the things i  said that got everyone upset. I will continue to go to the meetings an try to help anyone who may need my help. I appriciate the help that Dennis an Shauna gave me.This is kinda why I really don't do the internet. Like i've said befor maybe the people that were there when I started got bored or like other people have mentioned they work.I do hope they don't feel like they did't 'get anything out of it after the years they have been out. I don't know how often I'll get back on internet again.

Hey Kathy,
I think we're all alright with you. I know I am. If there's anything I would suggest it's that you look over your post carefully before you hit that submit button just to be sure it reflects your thoughts and intention. That's all. I hope you continue to use the internet and especially this forum. It does offer daily support that we all can benefit from.
See ya at the next meeting.
Take care,

Dennis

Kathy...PLEASE do not stop using this board for support you can find tons of great information on here and if you can not make a meeting you can always find an answer on here. We are just like a family and while a few of us knew who you are others didn't know you because there is no picture so like a family they get defensive to protect. In no way is anyone on here mad or upset with you.

I know if I go to each person and posted that attends a Barix meeting and said that is Kathy they would know exactly who you are and not everyone knows you are new to the internet and just learning. After while you reading peoples post you get to learn the way they type just like when you talk in real life you can detect hurt, laughter, anger and other emotions.

Keep reading and keep posting! You will find WLS veterans on here and we will cheer your success! 

I am not from Barix. Nor from an area where most posters are. I am kinda by myself down here in south central PA. LOL

Just wanted to let you know that this forum is a great source of information, answers and guidance. I am almost 6 years out, do not attend any support groups, so I turn here when it's needed.

I am a full time student, mom of 4 and work part time. I just don't have the time to attend meetings on top of it. I would venture to say many others are the same. Life gets so complicated and busy. Especially when you have a new grasp on life.

This forum is a quick and easy way to give and receive support on MY schedule.

Just encouraging you to utilize the great people here on the internet. It's a wonderful tool.