OT- Need some support

Hi all. I am asking for some peaceful thoughts and prayers. My ex husband bobby who was I was with 8 years, found his son stephen dead this am. Stephen was 22. I have known stephen since he was 11 and was his step mom for 8 years, He always was a troubled young man and in recent years began to have drug problems as well as mental health problems. Just last week Bobby called to get help on how to 302 him. It appears it was a accidental drug overdose. My hunch is too much xanax on top of alcohol. Bobby is devastated, he feels guilty. I am pretty sad myself. It has been several years since i have seen Stephen but he will always be my son. I am always going to feel responsible for him in many ways. My wish is to go to the funeral but I dont think I will be welcome and I dont want to cause more grief so I wil stay away. There should be more info in the coming days. Please send them your love. Please send me some too

Nicole

I am so sorry, I know what it feels like to lose a child, although mine comitted suicide.  There is an empty hollow that just does not go away.  My prayers and love are with you.  If you need anything please contact me.

Thanks nan

Wow.  Very close to home on way to many levels.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your ex, and the entire family.  May the coming months and years be able to bring you all peace and happiness.

Call me if you need anything.

Hugs.

Pam and Brian

NIcole I am so sorry. You are in my prayers, along with Stephen's family.

(((hugs))) Nicole.  I am so sorry for your loss.

Have you spoken to your ex-husband about attending the funeral?  In some instances, a personal connection such as yours is acceptable to the family of the deceased, because it shows you care.

I am so sorry for your loss;  drug problems can be so hard to deal with.

I have spoken to him, and while he would like for me to be there. He said I should stay away because he knows it will be upsetting to his ex wife.

In that case, I'm sure a nice floral offering would be acceptable.

Best wishes,

Nicole - I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope you can find someway to find some closure at some point!  We are thinking about you and are here if you need anything!