OT-Did she really just ask that?
I was in the grocery store this morning. The same store I have shopped at for years. I have my favorite cashiers at this store, but I guess this morning they were all on break when I went to check out. I decided on the fastest line which just happened to be the express, 10 items or less. I was getting steamed shrimp for lunch. The cashier, who has worked there for years says to me "Wow, you have lost a lot of weight, what did you do?" If someone asks me that, I always tell the truth and tell them I lost 45 lbs last summer and fall and then had WLS in Dec.
She then proceeds to ask me with a straight and serious face, "Did you do it to look better, or for health reasons?" My smart a** wanted to answer that my health was perfect, but I wanted to get in better shape to appear in Playgirl! Instead I told the truth again and said that my blood pressure was out of control and near stroke level on several occasions in the last few years and that my over all health was declining because I weighed nearly 500 lbs.
I can't believe how many speak without thinking.
She then proceeds to ask me with a straight and serious face, "Did you do it to look better, or for health reasons?" My smart a** wanted to answer that my health was perfect, but I wanted to get in better shape to appear in Playgirl! Instead I told the truth again and said that my blood pressure was out of control and near stroke level on several occasions in the last few years and that my over all health was declining because I weighed nearly 500 lbs.
I can't believe how many speak without thinking.
John,
Yeah - I think a lot of people have dysfunctional filters between the brain and the mouth. They have no clue what they're saying until it's out, and even then, half the time, they don't recognize anything "odd" in what they said. Her question was really innocuous - probably simple curiousity - but it hits at the heart of some really sensitive issues for many of us.
Depending on the person, a smart-ass answer can be a funny way to make the point. For others, there's really nothing to be gained by it and a simple "that's a bit personal, don't you think?" or "I can't believe you just asked that" might be a better approach. OR, in the cases where someone is genuinely interested and it just came out wrong, a gentle and honest answer can be the best.
You're doing amazingly well, whatever angle you look at it. And don't worry - I doubt any of us read Playgirl, so when your spread comes out we won't know until you tell us ;-). I hope you get the centerfold!
Karen
Yeah - I think a lot of people have dysfunctional filters between the brain and the mouth. They have no clue what they're saying until it's out, and even then, half the time, they don't recognize anything "odd" in what they said. Her question was really innocuous - probably simple curiousity - but it hits at the heart of some really sensitive issues for many of us.
Depending on the person, a smart-ass answer can be a funny way to make the point. For others, there's really nothing to be gained by it and a simple "that's a bit personal, don't you think?" or "I can't believe you just asked that" might be a better approach. OR, in the cases where someone is genuinely interested and it just came out wrong, a gentle and honest answer can be the best.
You're doing amazingly well, whatever angle you look at it. And don't worry - I doubt any of us read Playgirl, so when your spread comes out we won't know until you tell us ;-). I hope you get the centerfold!
Karen
You did the right thing by taking the high road - and it also becomes an education for her in the subject of weight loss surgery because trust me, a lot of people out there just don't get it.
I think the oddest question I get (and I get it a lot) is: "Do you feel better now?" Um, duh - YEAH! I'm not carrying around a 175 lb person on my back anymore so of course I feel better!!
Thin people don't get it and fluffy people who don't believe in WLS like to point out the negatives - the food we can't eat - the saggy skin, etc. You will learn to ignore those people and their rude comments - just comes with the territory.
I think the oddest question I get (and I get it a lot) is: "Do you feel better now?" Um, duh - YEAH! I'm not carrying around a 175 lb person on my back anymore so of course I feel better!!
Thin people don't get it and fluffy people who don't believe in WLS like to point out the negatives - the food we can't eat - the saggy skin, etc. You will learn to ignore those people and their rude comments - just comes with the territory.
'One shoe can change your life'...Cinderella
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