Comments!!

Ma2jenna
on 4/7/10 2:19 am - Fleetwood, PA
So, I have not had too many comments that really bothered me.  And I know people don't "get it"  I am getting used to being called "skinny" and asked "where is the rest of you"  No biggie.  But a mom I have known for almost 4 years now (kids in school since 3 year old preschool) saw me for the first time since October at Softball practice.  She came over and hugged me and said "look at you skinny!"  Then said the same to my husband.  THEN...she said "I am going to give your guys my extra weight to lose since it is so easy for you!"  WHAT??  I just laughed but hello?  Easy??  Funny thing is I told her how it was anything but when we talked back in October!  Ugh!  I don't know why that one bothered me so much! 
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(deactivated member)
on 4/7/10 2:51 am
I can understand your anger with comments like that about 2 weeks ago a neighbor asked what diet I and gym I used to lose my weight. I said I had gastric bypass and Retro Fitness. She then said Oh you took the easy way out and didn't need the gym. I snapped back there was nothign easy about this and then said I have to go. I have not been able look at her since without anger.
(deactivated member)
on 4/7/10 2:51 am - Eastern, PA
That comment is TEXTBOOK passive-aggressive jealousy.

Let it roll off your back like water on a duck!
krislyall
on 4/7/10 3:27 am - Newark, DE
I can totally understand your anger.  Even before I had my surgery I had to deal with someone I thought was a friend.  I had my surgery this past September and over the 4th of July last year we got together with a bunch of friends to celebrate the holiday.  At that time not many knew I was going through the process but I didn't keep it from people.  Well at the party it was mentioned that was going through the bypass and I answered questions and everything that this woman looked my straight in the eye and said "i don't know why you are going though with it ... everyone i know who has had the surgery has gained all their weight back plus some.  You're just taking the easy way out!!"

I was speechless ... I didn't know what to say.  At the time all i could come up with was "i guess that's your opinion" and walked away.  Still today it kind of bothers me.  I will be seeing her again for the first time this coming Memorial Day and I can't wait to shock the pants off of her.  I know I will never change her mind, but I know why I had the surgery and the work that it takes every single day.

Keep up the good work... even if others don't understand... we on the boards do.

Kris
pennykid
on 4/7/10 3:54 am - PA
A lot of people have no idea what is involved with this surgery and think it's the easy way out.  Last summer, I told one of our beach neighbors that I had gastric bypass.  Her response?  "Well, that's the wrong way to do it, but whatever!"  It really ticked me off, and I didn't want to bother with her much after that.  But I figure it's her opinion and she's entitled to it; as a retired phys ed teacher, I'm sure she does think it's the wrong way.  My boyfriend and I try to educate people whenever possible so people will begin to understand what it's all about.
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R K.
on 4/7/10 4:26 am
I don`t remember where I saw this but does this sound like the easy way out?


Have some respect for WLSers! Here’s why:

  1. Hell Week. The days immediately following surgery are the most intense, miserable experience you can imagine. You have been through major surgery and your body will not let you forget it. The pain is bad enough, but the fatigue is worse.Then there is your sudden withdrawal from food. You see it everywhere: your family’s meals, in commercials. You will experience cravings that drive mental anguish to new levels.Hormone levels go a bit haywire, and depression is common. So are vast mood swings. You may well feel like you’re just going insane.All this leads to a serious case of buyers remorse. Why on earth did I do this to my body? Of course, this regret contributes to the mental anguish.Hell Week can be as short as a few days or as long as a couple of weeks. And everyone goes through it.
  2. Dumping. Most gastric bypass patients will experience dumping at least once, some more often. Dumping happens when food (which hasn’t been broken down as thoroughly as it was before surgery) enters the small intestine too quickly. You start to sweat. You’re nauseas and you may even throw up. Or you could have diarrhea. And then you are exhausted and want to sleep.It’s the most miserable feeling you can imagine, and you will do anything to avoid experiencing it again.
  3. Suddenly removing food from your life is traumatic. More so than you can imagine. And it’s not like you can sneak around and cheat like you can on a diet - at least not for a long while. It’s as if a close friend has died.Then there are the emotional ramifications of this loss. You have to do “brain surgery" on yourself, discovering why you overate to begin with and how to change destructive behaviors. It can be very uncomfortable, even though its healthy in the long run.
  4. Complications. There are lots of potential complications and some unpleasant side effects. You can develop infections from surgery. You could develop gall stones and need your gall bladder out. (Been there done that - where’s my t-shirt?) You could develop a stricture (incredibly painful!) and need more surgery. You can develop reactive hypoglycemia, have food blocking the exit of your pouch (again very painful!) or become constipated. Or you could just have painful, smelly gas.
  5. Vitamins. With gastric bypass, the part of your intestine that absorbs much of your nutrients is bypassed. So you must take a range of vitamins every day for the rest of your life. This can mean anywhere from 4 pills up to 12 or more, each and every day. If you don’t take vitamins, or if the ones you take aren’t good enough, you can develop life-threatening deficiencies. You may wind up having to take regular shots or get regular blood transfusions. Either way, it’s no walk in the park.
  6. Protein and water requirements. In addition to constantly popping vitamins, gastric bypass patients must get 60 - 80 grams of protein and 48 - 64 ounces of water every day into a pouch that holds about 1 cup at a time. Lets just say that’s not easy and requires constant effort.
  7. You still have to watch what you eat and exercise. This is the biggest myth out there - that having gastric bypass surgery means weight magically falls off of you with no effort. And while you may lose some weight without exercise, if you want to see real results you have to get moving. And you can’t just shove anything in your mouth, either. Even if you happen to be one of the “lucky" few who can eat anything without dumping, unhealthy foods will stop weight loss and start regain. Just like they will for anyone else.
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Lisa H.
on 4/7/10 5:01 am - Whitehall, PA
WOW!! I love this.  I'm saving this for myself for the next time someone tells me I took the easy way out.

Thanks for sharing!

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Laureen S.
on 4/7/10 5:29 am, edited 4/7/10 5:30 am - Maple Shade, NJ
It's the old addage about "walk a mile in my moccasin's" unless and until someone has first hand experience, they will never get it.�

We who have chosen this path, know that it is a tool, like any other tool, if mishandled can land us in a bad way, but it helped us in a way nothing else could and it is a lifelong commitment, I, myself, did not get it, until I watched up close and personal, someone I loved go through this and yes, we can gain all our weight back, if we abuse the tool and don't adhere to a regime that includes regular exercise and watching what we put into our mouths, as some of us know too well, it is not an easy road, but your friend and probably half the people out there would never get it.�

Hold you head high and don't let anyone get the better of you for chosing to live your healthy lifestyle.� I�now don't tell people right off the bat that I had WLS, because now mostly what I do, is live a healthy lifestyle, through diet and exercise and I�don't mean diet as in yo-yo, but as in making healthy choices of what I eat and when I chose less than healthy, I�don't do so for extended periods of time because I don't want to be the person I�was 2-1/2 years ago, I�like what and how I can move about today and that I feel like I�have more energy than most 30somethings I know.� Enjoy your journey!


My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . .  It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . .  Laureen

"Success is a journey, not a destination."  Ben Sweetland

Ma2jenna
on 4/7/10 5:45 am - Fleetwood, PA
You are all SUPER AWESOME and I knew coming here would get good responses!  I am in a SHORT SKIRT (well, its a skort with shorts under but no one knows lol) on this gorgeous day and I watched myself walk into a building today.  The reflection was Unreal!  Is that ME??  All my hard work (with much harder to come since I am so close to goal!!) is paying off.  I will excuse her lack of knowledge and learn to advise people if they need it and ignore the ones it will be lost on.  I think I need a button to wear "easy my ass!  you try it!"  ROFL!  What I love most about this, all the new people I meet have NO IDEA I was fat!!  
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LindaScrip
on 4/11/10 4:19 am
I would have simply looked at her and said DUH...excuse me and walked away.  Simple.  We have been there and done that and resent when people say we took the easy way out and do not know how hard this is and how much work it takes so DUH excuse me and walk away is my answer to that when its said to me. And BTW I agree with Norm, not that he needs me to but he is so right!  Thanks Norm.
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