Only 4 Days left 4 me
I am getting a little antsy as I only have 4 days left until my Surgery. I have been on a mostly liquid diet since wednesday. Some times I get really weak from lack of food but it is not killing me yet. My family and my wife's family have been very supportive and positve the last few days. My friends have all been sending me good wishes. It was really hard to not sample my 2 year old daughter's candy yesterday. I played basketball with my niece on Saturday and it was really fun and felt good to play again. Since I have lost about 40 lbs so far I was able to play with her and it made her day and mine too. She is only 9 and struggling with her weight too. I want very much to help her but sometimes I think her mom tries to protect her too much. She always asked me and my wife about how to make her belly smaller but I always think her mom will get mad if I give her advice. What would you all do in this situation??? I know once my weight starts to come off she is going to think I am a magician.
Sounds like you're doing great in the run up to your surgery! I really think the pre-surg liquid diet is a lot harder than post-surg, so you're almost to the end of the hard part ;-).
As to your niece, the fact that she's asking you for advice means 2 things - 1 - she's aware of and concerned about her weight issues and wants to change them and -2- she's not getting answers she needs elsewhere. I usually err on the side of honesty and answer kids' questions openly and with care. If she's the one initiating the question, you're not prompting her that she's got a problem - you're simply offering information that's appropriate to her age (NOT diet, focus on exercise primarily and nutrition - cutting out soda and low-nutrient-value foods, upping high-taste, high-value foods like chicken, fish, lean meats, veggies, etc.)
And I would also tell her mom that she asked and tell her how you answered her. If you are comfortable in the role, offer to the mom to be available to answer questions for the niece on the topic, if she's not comfortable doing so. Maybe even suggest working with a pediatric nutritionist if the problem is significant enough.
But that's just MY approach... your mileage may vary.
Karen
As to your niece, the fact that she's asking you for advice means 2 things - 1 - she's aware of and concerned about her weight issues and wants to change them and -2- she's not getting answers she needs elsewhere. I usually err on the side of honesty and answer kids' questions openly and with care. If she's the one initiating the question, you're not prompting her that she's got a problem - you're simply offering information that's appropriate to her age (NOT diet, focus on exercise primarily and nutrition - cutting out soda and low-nutrient-value foods, upping high-taste, high-value foods like chicken, fish, lean meats, veggies, etc.)
And I would also tell her mom that she asked and tell her how you answered her. If you are comfortable in the role, offer to the mom to be available to answer questions for the niece on the topic, if she's not comfortable doing so. Maybe even suggest working with a pediatric nutritionist if the problem is significant enough.
But that's just MY approach... your mileage may vary.
Karen
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on 4/5/10 2:29 am - Philadelphia, PA
on 4/5/10 2:29 am - Philadelphia, PA
WOW - That's really exciting! I don't have a date yet but had my pulmonary function test this morning. Nervous as he## and that was just for a simple test - I hear ya! It sounds like you have some good support. Try to do some deep breathing exercises. 
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