Okay is it me or the older I get..

the less nonsense I take. Has anybody else experienced this? My husband seems to think that it's not that the older I get the less BS I take from people it's the fact that I have lost over 100lbs that is the reason for my no nonsense attitude. I was always people pleaser before but frankly my dear I don't give a damn what other people think of me anymore. I LOVE this new me. Any body else with me??

I am having the opposite, before surgery, I was a nasty ***** had no patience for anybody or anything.  Now after the past few years I've had, it seems I've mellowed out and have become more tolerant of others.  I spend a lot of time laughing off their ridiculousness.

The older I get the more easy going I get. In my youth I would fight at the drop of a hat. Cut me off and I`d pull over without thinking. Now days you really have to do something outrageous to get me to throw down the gloves. That and age, dogs and grandkids have made me way more sensitive. I keep telling my DW next time I go for my biannual urology check up I`m going to ask him to check my vagina. LOL

I have always been pretty outspoken but I find that sometimes my fuse is shorter with stupid people. I don't have sympanthy for them anymore then just annoy the hell outta me lol

I honestly don't chalk it up to weight loss OR age (I'm to young for that, right?).  I do have much less of a tolerance, though, and a bunch of us at work chalk it up to being an ER nurse for x amount of years.  You just become callous - it sounds awful - but it's true.  And I'm that way with a lot of things now.  Don't give me a sing song story...just get it done...whatever :)

I have never been outspoken as an adult. I kept things in then I would explode no medium ground. Now I have no problem saying something to family friends etc. Right after surgery within the first year my mother made a comment about it. I told her THIS IS WHO I AM WHEN I CANNOT STUFF MY ANGER WITH FOOD DEAL WITH IT LOL 

You go girl. I love the new you too

I would think that if somebody close to you and that has a vested interest in you says that after WLS you`ve become less tolerant and not caring about what others think that it may be a good time for some self reflection. Is it a payback because people were not sensitive to your feelings when you were heavy? Has the confidence pendulum swung to far to the other side and needs to swing back to center?

Honesty is a wonderful thing but sometimes you have to ask what the motive of your blatant honesty is and will being honest make things better?
Peoples feelings are important and remember there is a difference between stupid and ignorant.

Yeah, Shilpa - I think it's a power surge.  Seriously, I don't think it's necessarily age or weight, specifically.  I believe we simply reach a point in our lives where we distill it down to what's important.  Once we have clarity (or more clarity) on our priorities in our lives, we can more clearly see what's crap.  And once you see it, you don't have to put up with it.    Anything we do that increases our self-confidence makes us more likely to stick up for ourselves, take less crap from others, and pick up less of other people's baggage.

For the many of us who went into this journey as "people pleasers"  having a period of time where we've HAD to focus on ourselves awakens the realization that the world doesn't come to an end when we assert our own needs.  And that the people in our lives *****ally count don't run away from us when we need them (as opposed to the other way around).  

Pretty powerful stuff.   And scary sometimes!  

Karen

Shilpa, I like to say I have a happy medium of both. LOL

I speak my mind when I feel I really need to. And I do it kindly but firmly. I don't like to be pushed around or ignored.

However, I find less to really speak up about. Unless something directly affects me or my kids, I could care less. I don't get worked up about much anymore. And in my younger and heavier days, I felt the need to be opiniated about everything.

However, sticking up for MYSELF is something I would never do in the past, but would quickly do now.

Oh I have turned into such a HAG I just give people looks like as if to say "and I care what you think and why"? I just don't care when it stupid stuff and no I don't seem to care and get upset like I used to.  By jove I think we've arrived. It was rough getting here but worth the journey.  When you sign my paycheck, sleep next to me, break bread with me or ride next to me or travel next to me then I care.  Til then I just don't give a flying you know what.  I am being nice.