OT - Need some advice...

Dude... what gives?  You done with the attacks or can I expect them the rest of the day??

You certainly make me regret even posting this on here.  I was looking for some advice from my friends on here and not someone who doesn't know me at all.  I have learned a valuable lesson from your responses. 

Please don't feel attacked. I think everybody is giving you what they believe to be good advice. This is a VERY well-intentioned group. We (for the most part!) keep things drama-free.

But I would be remiss if I didn't mention that it's a little silly to put something on the internet and then be upset when people that you don't know give you feedback.

If you want advice exclusively from your friends, contact your freinds exclusively and directly.

 Here`s the deal. I`ve spent 35 years on the road as a trucker, been a biker a long time and a member of socially unacceptable fraternities in the past. Truth is all i know whether it be on the net, in a bar or face to face. sugar coating answers doesn`t create honest discussion. I would tell my Son`s the same things I tell you.
The fact that you are here looking for validation already tells me you know what`s right but you want somebody else to make the over the top decision. PS, friends in many cases will tell you what you want to hear not the truth. Everybody does have their own truth though.

I agree with Norm. If you feel guilty just thinking about spending the money, you are sure to feel guilty when you actually do.

Stay home. Try to plan something that is more definate and set in stone, that you won't have any guilt feelings about.

I'm torn.

As far as the marriage thing, self time, etc is concernd...Brian and I have a VERY open view on things.  He has friends who are girls...I have friends who are guys...both of which we have gone away with individually and split rooms with.  We both know the others friends VERY well and have no quams about it what so ever.  And no, there's no HIDDEN feelings of jealousy or anything like that.  So that, to me, is not an issue as long as you and Erin have that same type of understanding.

Now...feeling guilty about spending the $.  I hear ya.  I tend to spend $$ on other people all the time without a blink of hesitation.  Spending $ on me...that's a WHOLE other story unless you include the gym membership/personal trainer fee I pay each month.   However, recently, I DID buy myself something fairly pricey....I talked to him about it first...and was literally in tears over telling him I wanted it.  Why?  I dunno.  He asked the same thing.  WHY?  I am the one working etc etc etc....and I don't "treat" myself the way I treat other people.  But basically - I totally understand why you feel the way you do.  I can tell you that I am VERY glad with the purchase I made, and in a weird twist, Brian helped me along with that.

Do I agree with "getting away" once in awhile?  Absolutely.  Just because you need some alone time isn't saying you don't want to be with the one you love.  As much as we are a couple - we are individuals and individuals need to have their space, if just for once in awhile.  Sometimes something like a support group, a good work out, a local dinner out with some guy friends just doesn't cut it.  It's the total change of scenery, routine etc.  Heck, even NOT sleeping because you are in a strange room in a strange place is enough to make you TRULY realize why you live where you live with WHOM you live with.  For those who might read into this...I'm not suggesting the "grass is greener on the other side" phenomenan nor am I implying to consistently run away when things get tough, or to explore, uh, other partnership options shall we say in ANY matter.....

If you really don't think you can truly relax and have fun due to the guilt...then no.  But otherwise....yes.

Ok gang...

Sorry for kinda going off on the last message.  I don't know why I let people's opinions get to me, but I trust and respect the opinion of most of you, so that is why I put this out there. 

Kelly is out, she is sick and not going.  I have a gay co-worker who offered to let me room with him, anyone want to weigh in on that????  Anyone???  Any percentages out there on what happens when married guys and gay guys room together?   

Maybe he doesn`t find you attractive. LOL

watch out - I hear it's contagious.... UGH!

Just honest opinions from people you asked, is all that was given. I am sorry if you feel attacked. People were just voicing their concerns about the situation and considering your wife's side of things.

In the future, I will refrain from my opinion or advice when you ask. I assumed you wanted replies, which is why I responded. Norm is 100% right about posting an advice thread on a forum if all you wanted was certain people's replies.