OT - Need some advice...

Ok, let me give some quick background and then sum up the problem.  Some co-workers and friends went to Atlantic City today and are staying until Thursday.  I didn't want to take the time off or waste the money on 3 days but decided to go down after work tomorrow afternoon and come home Thursday morning and go to work middle shift at 3pm.  To save money, I was even going to crash on my co-worker / friend Kelly's floor.  I initially asked Erin to go and she didn't want to just for a night.  I then decided that time away is what I needed.  Lot of stress in my life lately.  Marriage stuff, new living situation with moving in my early dementia grandmother, some other stuff.  I just wanted to go away for a night, kick back, relax and unwind for one night.  Not a big gambler, so that's not it, it's just being away from some of my stressors.  Mentioned it to Erin and she was cool with it. 

Well freakin Kelly has to go and get sick, unavoidable so didn't go down tonight.  She might go down tomorrow if she feels better.  She would need to find a room, since she lost her comp room by not going tonight.  I'll gladly split the cost if she goes.  That was my original intention before I knew she got a comp room.  But I have no clue if she is going or not.  So... do I go and just get my own room or just say screw it and stay home.  I have some extra money to pay for the whole room on my own if need be, but I feel bad spending the money. 

I know what I want to do, but again, I feel guilty spending the money.  I am going to stress about this all night.  I'll be miserable if I don't go and guilty if I do go.  Help! 

Keep your hiney home and go to support group to release some stress...save all that money!  LOL 

And splitting the room with a female co-worker is OK with everyone?  (I HAD to ask so I just did it) no judgement, just asking.  

Very valid question.  Erin was cool with it, I checked first.  Kelly and I have a brother and sister relationship, so there would be no issue there.  Apparently someone is in favor of support group....

Good catch. hey seriously I don`t know you BUT from an older guy that`s been around the block a couple times my bull**** meter just topped out.
Why not stand tuff, keep up your family responsibilities and if you need stress relief go for a run or do something positive.

I think if you can swing it, you should go.  Everyone deserves time away from the stressors of life.  Hopefully Kelly will feel better and you can just split the cost.  Or, is there anyone else who would be willing to give up floor space? If you are going after work, would you be sleeping at night or during the day? If you are going to sleep during the day, then you may even be able to get a bed!

I hope you can come to a decision that will work for you.  Like I said, everyone needs "me" time... and no, I don't mean LISA time.. though you are kinda fun to hang out with.. LOL!

<--- Random guy voting for stay at home and go some other time when their won't be indecison and stress involved with the trip. Sounds like more trouble than it's worth.

WEll I love going to AC so I will vote for GO! Of course I wouldn't sleep and would be up all night anyway! lol If it doesn't "feel" right maybe see if someone can watch the girls for a few hours and take Erin to the SANDS for dinner and a little gaming. If it's a "guys night out" you are looking for see if someone will go with you and do something locally.


I agree that everyone needs some "me" time or we get burned out - it makes for better relationships, marriages, and I would assume parenting too

Guys night out is way different then AC overnight and sharing a room with a female co-worker.
Obviously I don`t know you but you say in the OP the stress is marriage stuff (well this will certainly help that, not) bringing your early dementia GM to your house to live (is this your GM or your GM inlaw?) and other stuff is the reason to flee to AC and leave DW to tend to all that and the house and twins so you can clear your head, correct?
To those that feel that`s acceptable I now understand the over 50% divorce rate in the US.

I agree with you. I am not sure if the OP meant actual marriage issues, or just everyday stresses of needed  alone time. I don't know Eric or his situation.

However, I can say that Johnny has several female friends that are just friends. But I would NOT be ok with him going to AC overnight with one of them. And I don't think he would even consider it. He is very old fashioned that way.

I see where the female friend thing could be a potential issue whether you think so or not. I have seen way too many instances where "innocent" situations become guilty ones in a heart beat.

*IF* you need some "me" time, as we all do, it's probably best to hang with buddies and eliminate the female issue all together. You do not want to complicate things if there are issues already.

And I am speaking as someone with true life experience about this, as I fall into the 50% divorce rate and have lived through the stresses, down fall and issues of a rocky relationship.

I do think that people need time away from spouses and kids. He never said that Erin couldn't go out with her friends or take a weekend away. I have male friends that my husband would have no problems with me sharing a room with and the same goes with his female friends. They are more like family then anything. I guess it depends on the individual situation. HE did say he was sleeping on the floor and his wife is OK with it. Just shows that they trust eachother. I know Eric loves his wife and daughters very much and wouldn't do anything to compromise that.