Subcommittes & Hurtful comments

Shilpa,

There's a saying that i think is from eleanor roosevelt... "no one can make you feel inferior withour your consent."   Think about that for a minute.  By allowing yourself to internalize that woman's comment - no matter WHY she made it - you're consenting to her manipulation of your feelings.  

I know you're stronger than that... and that you have more self respect than that. 

Emblazon that saying on your brain, write it on your hand, or do whatever you need to so that you remind yourself of it every day.   If she had said that about one of your friends, how would you have reacted?  React the same way for yourself, because you are (or should be) at LEAST as important to yourself as your friends are!

You are NOT< NOT< NOT< NOT  fat.

Karen

Thanks Karen. I love that saying . I am so keeping that on hand.

ten lbs can be gained and lost but ignorance can be permanent

you look wonderful and you are not defined by a number on the scale......again, maybe your body needs that ten pounds where it is for a reason, you need to feel good about yourself....only you can let someone else have that power over you to hurt you............love you...

Shilpa, you better stick around me some more so you can learn to be nasty , I will teach u cause i m the mster
hugs Susan

Shilpa,

     There isn't anything that I can say that hasn't already been said.  The weight is HER ISSUE but it brings up the old tapes for us.  You look awesome so stop giving this person space in your head.  She doesn't deserve your energy.  Remember all the snow you have been shoveling and the work on the Elliptical.  You could probably take her in no time (just kidding)  Hang in there - you're doing great.  Take care.

Donna

A good one for future.. who pissed on your cornflakes this morning?  For someone in a holy place to be hateful is horrible.

Remember - I made my decision to have surgery at the seminar that you spoke at - and that is because you look awesome!

Maura

 I like that saying , i think i can use i

Plain and simple Shilpa "No one can steal your joy unless you ALLOW them to steal your joy"

You gave this woman power over your own emotions. To reply back in a negative way or smaert ass way is just feeding into her own negative power. Either just say nothing or smile and say thank  you is something more powerful then going in to a battle of words.

I am also not trying to be a b*tch but when we label sizes and weight numbers remember others maybe in a  higher number place that we came from and it can make them feel bad even when you are not trying to do so.  That number may make them feel good but to hear or read it can also allow them to feel defeated. Because depending on the day and the cut of certain designer  pants and jeans I am  that size 16!