Recommittment

Great post Pam! and great additions by everyone!!!  I'm right there with you.    One little thing you mentioned that smacked at me because the same thing happens with me and Jake.    We love each other with food.   We need to find other ways to express love.   And, we need to do what's best for each other which means using the maltitol when Brian's out of the room and not telling him you put it in there.  Unless he's got an allergy he'll probably never know the difference; he'll get used to it! (you did) and if he eats too much he'll get the runs which means he shouldn't have eaten that much!!!  Dump the shakes down the drain when he's not looking and fess up to it later (not in the moment, that will only hurt his feelings and create a negative moment), tell him not to waste his $ next time; put it in a jar and buy you something you can wear just for him.  (maybe something with a remote he can control??? hehehehe)

My hubby's always doing foodstuffs for me, it's automatic.   He NEVER did that in the beginning, HE fell back into HIS old habit!   It's only when he sees me dump something in the trash and I remind him why that he perks up and gets with MY program.   The further out I get, the further the rules recede from the forefront of the mind.   HIS and MINE.   Remind Brian...it ain't over til the fat lady sings and you ain't ever gonna be a fat lady again, so.....

Kudos for all that you do Pam!  

put it in a jar and buy you something you can wear just for him.  (maybe something with a remote he can control??? hehehehe)



ROFL!!!!!! I forgot you were there Jackie!! 

Hey Lis, if my ass were as small as Pam's and could fit in them I would have bought them in a second!!!   I thought they were awesome!!   And, what guy wouldn't want control of that!!!

Pam Lisa and everyone. We have all found ourselves here. It is part of the learning curve and it is so easy to revert back to old things.

One of the things I working on right now is self loving behavior. Each time I want to eat I am trying to do a self care behavior. " i dont have time to do my nails everytime i have a craving" you say LOL. What I have realized is that I need to do a self love behavior to counteract the other. What i am doing now is drinking water when i feel that way. Not because it is a diversion...no it is because I need it. I do NOT get enough water and I know part of that is a Self Defeating behavior. So drinking some water for me is a way to love myself. You can do this. so can i. I got some junk in the trunk to lose too

Its this re-committment issue that is going to keep me from coming to the cooking support group tomorrow.  I find that its to easy to eat a little of every single thing no matter how WLS friendly it is, its still too much for me to have access to.  I'm kicking myself in the arse right now and not allowing myself to be entertained by food.

Pam

I could have written this exact post minus the cycle weight gain.  It seems that I have also strayed too far away from my good eating habits.  I've been boredom eating, testing too many unhealthy choices and of course I gained weight - duh!  Scary how fast old habits creep in.  I went to my primary for a check up the other day and didn't want to get on the scale but finally gave in.  OMG- the results showed just what I expected.  I then thought about all the times I avoided the scale and now wanting to do the same.  So - time to get back with the program.

I do have to say that I never have given up the exercise- thank goodness.  OK - time to kick ass! 

uuuuuggggghhhhhh....weight gain..... if only i knew what life would be like before i had this damn surgery.... 

good to see (again) that I'm not alone, and that others are struggling and trying just as hard.