OT: Want to Apologize for being rude to sum ppl. on PA Board.

A few months back I used to be apart of this message board. However, for those who do not know..I had a moment where I was rude to some ppl on here. I do not exactly remember the ordeal of what was going on but I just wanted to say I am sorry for being rude.  I miss this PA board because any other board I have gone to is boring where this board honestly has a warm feeling of good ppl with good advice and opinions.

I am in desperate need of some advice here...I am doing good with my weight loss journey btw I have lost 128lbs so far since June 17th of last year. I have 35 more pounds to go to get to my goal weight of 170. That is my first goal and if I am not comfortable at 170 my second goal is to get to 150. That is the update on me as far as my wlj. Recently, on Monday my mother of 50 years old had a stroke due to high blood pressure...I am at home right now taking care of her. She needs to go on a diet and lose weight the dr said. I have noticed my mom has gained some weight recently on top of what she used to weight before. Which is not good..but my dad would not say anything to her and noone else about her weight. My dad wants me to do up a meal plan for them on low fat,  low sodium, and low calorie diet. I have looked up some receipes for them to try and I am hoping they do try to lose weight. Except we all know that once my mom is back to normal and loses some weight..she might forget what happened and go off track. Which we all know happens..but this is my mother..how do I cope with her making the decisions she wants to make..when she ends up in the hospital sick.  Now more than anything I am trying to let my parents know that their health is very important. My mom is very lucky right now that this stroke was minor and is doing very well...just needs some speech therapy. If there are any nurses out there on this board....could any of you tell me what would be good for my mom to do to recover as far as with the speech therapy? I know your not a therapist but you know nurses know more than the drs and stuff anyways...should I be showing her pictures of things she doesnt recognize and numbers and letters? She is still very confused when she is asked a question..she is thinking the past and future tasks she has not done yet. Her stroke was on the right side of the brain so her left side is the one functioning her thinking right now. This is soo hard for my dad to go through right now also. For me it is difficult too but I have been a CNA for 11 years and I have worked with patients that have had strokes. But we know that things become different when its your own parent.  Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks.

Please forgive me..

Ok, bottom line, You totally pissed me off before. You were rude, out of line ,and completely disrespectful to people who have experience and were trying to help.

However, being in the medical field, I am sensitive to your mother's condition. Frankly, recipies that you want are abundant online. You can find them everywhere.

However, since a physician has mandated her diet restrictions, I suggest he refers her to a dietician. Virtually every hospital has them. I send patients to dieticians all the time to learn how to follow Renal Diets, I imagine the cardiologist or PCP can refer her to a specific diet that the dietician can be specific about. That will help you and your father with specific diet plans.

It's the safest and best route to take. Good luck!

Jo this is excellent advice, and parents may take the directions better from a doctor and dietitian than from a family member.

 Thanks for the advice. Was hoping for a better turn out on this post..must be that my rudeness was for a reason last time...because no one was responding plus I was getting rude comments but yet some warm comments from others. Must be the warm ppl have been steered away or something from the rudeness on this board. IDK. I figured I would of gotten like at least 20 responses. Fat chance in that happening..must be I have high hopes or something.

Dee, I too am sad to see that you didn't get more of a response. When you posted last I remember you were hurt and lased out. But who hasn't!! I do come on these boards because they do give some very good advice and for the most part have been good to me.  But I guess aside from that, they are not very forgiving!  Which is a shame and makes me very disappointed with this board. I would have thought they had more sensitivity and understand! Everyone derisives a second chance. Its not like you killed anyone!!! Boy are they acting like it. I wish I could help you with your mother but I have no experience with this. As far as this board, all I can say is keep trying and keep posting and responding and maybe you can win there trust back. I find people on the east cost very tough( I'm from Minnesota and now live in Philly) so try and be patient! Good luck with everything.

I forgive you!

My best Julie

Dee,
I am sorry that you did not get the response you had hoped for.  For one thing, I have little advice for your Mom's diet, and think Jo's answer is the safest. 

I hope you find out what you need to know for your Mom.  

I don't get on the board much, except to do Roll Call.  My depression is pretty bad these days, and I guess I feel I have little to offer in the way of encouragement.

God bless.

Tris