Domestics update

miracle of miracles, he actually showed up this morning.  He did notice the weight loss, but didn't make a big production about it.  Oh well.  I think he was too busy being bitter for having to be there.  He lost weight, too.  But, I didn't say anything until he said something about mine.  We had civil conversation until it was time to go before the caseworker. 

Once we got in there, she asked the typical questions like are you working now: NO, are you looking for work: YES did you apply for any jobs this week: NO why not? WORKING FOR MY LANDLORD to offset the rent.  Is he paying you cash or just taking off the rent: JUST THE RENT.  Does he say anything to her about all the odd jobs he does under the table? OF COURSE NOT

So, she asked what I wanted to do since I am getting some payment.  I could have been nice and just let it go, but why should I? My daughter is entitled to every penny he owes.  So, back to court this afternoon to go in front of the judge.  The caseworker said that she can't guarantee a positive outcome since he is making some payments, but we'll see what happens.  

Of course now he is getting all upset with me because he doesn't have a job and where is he supposed to come up with the money.  I told him that it really wasn't my problem and if he could stay out of jail and not have a record, he would be able to get a job.  So, he stayed afterward to file for a reduction in child support.  I don't THINK they will give it to him based on his payment history, but they might.  So, he thinks he's getting even with me now because as he said I'll be getting less than I was.. I was like um, I'm not getting anything now, so how can it be less??  I told him that maybe if he would see his daughter, things would be different.  He said that last time he saw her he asked her if she wanted to stay with him for the day and she said no, so he hasn't tried again.  I told him that she doesn't KNOW him.  He needs to take time so she can get to know him before she is going to be willing to spend any length of time with him.

Anyway, I am home for a bit to relax.. will still meet my friend for lunch and then go back to the courthouse this afternoon to go before the judge.

Ugh how nasty hang in there, but good for you for standing up for yourself and Sierra

Jerk

Good luck this afternoon! Your right Siehara deserves every penny! She didn't pick him.

Lots of luck to you and I agree stick to your guns.  The financial support of a kid is both parents responsibility

Good luck this afternoon! I hope the judge sides with you! Your daughter should get every penny she is entitled to and them some! You are right he should spend time with his daughter get to know her because one day it will be to late and she will want nothing to with him at all. I hope all goes well for you.

Good luck!! Support battles can be so depressing, but stick to it because you and your little girl deserve that support. I hope he takes the time to actually get to know her father. When my parents went through divorce my dad fought for me and its important to have the male figure in your life. I don't know what I would do without my dad and don't understand how someone could not spend time with their child. That's not a real man. I hope he actually takes the time to know his daughter, if not at least she has you. I hope you get everything you want. Wishing the best for you and your daughter!!

Lisa,
Hope things go better this afternoon.  If he is getting any kind of state aid, they will take some of that from him, as they do not care what he has to live on, as long as he is supporting Siehara.  He may be in for the shock of his life when you get before the judge.  I agree he needs to let his daughter get to know him, and I would not let her go off with him alone anyway.  (jmho)  Keep us updated, Good Luck.  (he will get what's coming to him at a later place and time )
Hugs Ena

Lisa,

That stinks!  He sounds like such a loser.  Rather than to have Siehara around someone like that, maybe it's a blessing he's not involved in her life.  Good luck with it all.

Debbie

I wish you strength not to strangle him.  At least you know you are trying to do the best thing for your daughter! Good luck I hope you get a female judge that has been wronged by a man...hehehe....but seriously  Just remember no matter what...... she gets enough love from just you for her!

Goodness gracious, sorry you are going through all this.  As someone else said, perhaps Siera is a little better off without the influence of someone like that.  And we all know how much you love and take care of her, which I'm sure she is very thankful for that, even if she can't express it.

Good luck this afternoon!