T-minus 30 days and counting
I got on the scale today and am down 34 lbs since my initial consult with Dr. Brader on 6/5/09. I am down 44 lbs since I started my 6 month monitored diet required by my insurance company. I started my 6 months on 5/12/09.
Today starts the 30 day countdown to surgery. I am getting nervous.
My wife has returned home and promised to support me and help before and after surgery . I am glad she is back but feeling very cautious.
I did have 1 question for you all. Did any of you worry about failing after surgery and gaining weight back, or worry about not trying hard enough after surgery to lose your maximum amount of weight? I believe in me.....I think.
Thanks in advance.
Today starts the 30 day countdown to surgery. I am getting nervous.
My wife has returned home and promised to support me and help before and after surgery . I am glad she is back but feeling very cautious.
I did have 1 question for you all. Did any of you worry about failing after surgery and gaining weight back, or worry about not trying hard enough after surgery to lose your maximum amount of weight? I believe in me.....I think.
Thanks in advance.
First off congratulations on the weight loss. That is something for you to be proud of. Also happy that your wife is back and can understand why you are cautious. Remember that you are doing the WLS for you - it is the greatest gift that you can give yourself.
To answer your questions - YES I worry that I will fail at this surgery. I am 5 months out and have lost 70 pounds but I have not been the most compliant of WLS patients. I struggle many days with the good and bad choices that I make. All I can say is that the support of this board and my group at Barix helps me to get back on track. I find that I am much better when I am working than on the weekends when I have unstructured time. That was the same problem I had before WLS.
Try to take it one day at a time. I also got more nervous the closer that I got to surgery. I have never regretted taking this step even on my worse days. Keep posting and reading. It will be very important to have surround yourself with people who are supportive of your decision. Positive thoughts and positive energy will help keep you focused.
Looking forward to welcoming you to the loser's bench in another month. Hang in there - you are doing great. Take care.
Donna
To answer your questions - YES I worry that I will fail at this surgery. I am 5 months out and have lost 70 pounds but I have not been the most compliant of WLS patients. I struggle many days with the good and bad choices that I make. All I can say is that the support of this board and my group at Barix helps me to get back on track. I find that I am much better when I am working than on the weekends when I have unstructured time. That was the same problem I had before WLS.
Try to take it one day at a time. I also got more nervous the closer that I got to surgery. I have never regretted taking this step even on my worse days. Keep posting and reading. It will be very important to have surround yourself with people who are supportive of your decision. Positive thoughts and positive energy will help keep you focused.
Looking forward to welcoming you to the loser's bench in another month. Hang in there - you are doing great. Take care.
Donna
You will do great. I am only one week out, but I think that we all worry about failing, but for me that's what will keep me on the straight and narrow. Good luck with your surgery, may it be as uneventful as mine was, and may you heal quickly.
"Journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step."
Congrats on your weight loss. ANd i am glad you will have some support.
WE ALL Worried about that and we should because it is possible, if you dont respect the rules of the pouch. We have all failed so many times we are afraid of accepting that this might work. Well i can tell you that it will work if you work the tool. No if and or buts. you can do it
WE ALL Worried about that and we should because it is possible, if you dont respect the rules of the pouch. We have all failed so many times we are afraid of accepting that this might work. Well i can tell you that it will work if you work the tool. No if and or buts. you can do it
I think everyone who's honest with themselves will tell you that they are afraid of being the "one" that the surgery doesn't work for. And we've all heard the stories of people who have lost 150 pounds and regained 200. If you're like many (most?) of us, you've tried numerous diets and programs over the years and failed at all of them - that's how you got here. That legacy of diet failure will taint your "trust" in your ability to succeed.
First off, the fear is a GOOD thing - let it work with you to keep you honest on this journey. The fear you have can help keep you on track during the first months post-op, when you will be breaking addictions and setting up new habits and behaviors. And those first months are your "honeymoon" when the weight will virtually fall off if you're working the plan - that's the time to work your butt off to maximize the loss.
The people who do regain do it by two means, it seems to me: 1. Becoming unconscious eaters later post-op 2. Never sticking to the plan in the beginning
If you vow to stick to the plan from the beginning, you'll not fit into that category. If you stay vigilant and really value the new life this surgery helps you achieve, you won't fit into the first category.
As someone else said, this is about taking it a day at a time - a minute at a time - a bite at a time. You are in control and this surgery helps put YOU back into control of your body.
If you can, try to get to the Saturday Barix meeting (this saturday in langhorne). You'll find a ton of people who can help and support you and who can guide you through this next period of adjustment. Your wife is welcome, too, if you think she'd be receptive - there's a breakout group for spouses and family that might be just the thing for her.
ALSO - look up "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" by Anne Katherine. GREAT book and one that I highly recommend reading to understand what certain food substances do in your body and how that can sabotage your previous diet attempts. It was a life-changing read for me.
Karen
First off, the fear is a GOOD thing - let it work with you to keep you honest on this journey. The fear you have can help keep you on track during the first months post-op, when you will be breaking addictions and setting up new habits and behaviors. And those first months are your "honeymoon" when the weight will virtually fall off if you're working the plan - that's the time to work your butt off to maximize the loss.
The people who do regain do it by two means, it seems to me: 1. Becoming unconscious eaters later post-op 2. Never sticking to the plan in the beginning
If you vow to stick to the plan from the beginning, you'll not fit into that category. If you stay vigilant and really value the new life this surgery helps you achieve, you won't fit into the first category.
As someone else said, this is about taking it a day at a time - a minute at a time - a bite at a time. You are in control and this surgery helps put YOU back into control of your body.
If you can, try to get to the Saturday Barix meeting (this saturday in langhorne). You'll find a ton of people who can help and support you and who can guide you through this next period of adjustment. Your wife is welcome, too, if you think she'd be receptive - there's a breakout group for spouses and family that might be just the thing for her.
ALSO - look up "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" by Anne Katherine. GREAT book and one that I highly recommend reading to understand what certain food substances do in your body and how that can sabotage your previous diet attempts. It was a life-changing read for me.
Karen
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