So! So! Sad and disappointed!(long)
Julie,
Seems everyone has said what I would have said from meeting someone ahead of time to not feel so alone to greeting someone yourself. I promise you no one will bite unless we are short on protein at the moment ... Pretty smart group we have here for sure.
We are really working on improving the meetings each and every month and that includes the new reading of the guidelines at the start of each meeting. I will fully admit I have been guilty of side bar conversations at the meeting in the past. So just last month I got up and went down the hall way to have a conversation rather then disrupt the group. Also do not be afraid to turn around and SHHHHH! someone or even give them the look. Most times people will get why you are giving the look.
I also see another thing we can improve on and will discuss with the leader team.
There is a whole team of leaders in that room and we try to do our best with our time but we are also there for support and it can get over whelming to us as well.
I will tell you a little story I am very shy and get un nerved in new settings my first Pre-op meeting(they are much smaller) I got to the arch way of the doors of Barix turned around went back to my car. Thought I have nothing in common with anyone in that room why bother well I then MADE myself go in to check it out. I met the leader that night Dennis he said hello and I sat down after saying hello in return. That first night I only said Hello to one person that one person and well I kept going back. Dennis and I are now a couple and I would randomly start talking to people now they are some of my best friends. I am even a leader myself.
So PLEASE come on back and give us a try!
Like others suggested try a First Saturday meeting they are small groups and more personal. Come and I will treat you to nice cold bottle of water! Promise!
Beth
Seems everyone has said what I would have said from meeting someone ahead of time to not feel so alone to greeting someone yourself. I promise you no one will bite unless we are short on protein at the moment ... Pretty smart group we have here for sure.
We are really working on improving the meetings each and every month and that includes the new reading of the guidelines at the start of each meeting. I will fully admit I have been guilty of side bar conversations at the meeting in the past. So just last month I got up and went down the hall way to have a conversation rather then disrupt the group. Also do not be afraid to turn around and SHHHHH! someone or even give them the look. Most times people will get why you are giving the look.
I also see another thing we can improve on and will discuss with the leader team.
There is a whole team of leaders in that room and we try to do our best with our time but we are also there for support and it can get over whelming to us as well.
I will tell you a little story I am very shy and get un nerved in new settings my first Pre-op meeting(they are much smaller) I got to the arch way of the doors of Barix turned around went back to my car. Thought I have nothing in common with anyone in that room why bother well I then MADE myself go in to check it out. I met the leader that night Dennis he said hello and I sat down after saying hello in return. That first night I only said Hello to one person that one person and well I kept going back. Dennis and I are now a couple and I would randomly start talking to people now they are some of my best friends. I am even a leader myself.
So PLEASE come on back and give us a try!
Like others suggested try a First Saturday meeting they are small groups and more personal. Come and I will treat you to nice cold bottle of water! Promise!
Beth
Hi Julie,
I live in Phoenixville but don't generally get to the Wed meetings at Barix because I don't drive at night. Since you're in Collegeville, that makes us neighbors. Sort of! lol If we could work out a way to get together, I'd be happy to ride with you to a meeting and be your meeting buddy. Maybe we can work something out soon.
Another option for you for support is the meeting in Phoenixville. We meet the first Wed of the month, at 7pm, in the cafeteria at Phoenixville Hospital. A lot of us at that meeting are Barix Babies, but not everyone. It's a much smaller group, and everyone is very welcoming. I hope you'll join us sometime!
Don't give up on support yet!!
I live in Phoenixville but don't generally get to the Wed meetings at Barix because I don't drive at night. Since you're in Collegeville, that makes us neighbors. Sort of! lol If we could work out a way to get together, I'd be happy to ride with you to a meeting and be your meeting buddy. Maybe we can work something out soon.
Another option for you for support is the meeting in Phoenixville. We meet the first Wed of the month, at 7pm, in the cafeteria at Phoenixville Hospital. A lot of us at that meeting are Barix Babies, but not everyone. It's a much smaller group, and everyone is very welcoming. I hope you'll join us sometime!
Don't give up on support yet!!
Julia
Julie,
Those meetings are huge and when you walk in there for the first time it feels like everyone knows someone but you. Don't take back your feelings...they are yours and its ok to feel what ever you feel.
I live right outside of Phoenixville. I don't get up to the barix meetings much any more, but I do try to make it to the one at phoenixville Hospital. Everyone is great at both meetings (although Norm is right...he is a bit of a stodgy pain in the ass...those were his words werent they? I will have to go back and check! LOL) If you ever want to get together for lunch or shopping or just sit around and have coffee, let me know! As a side note...I just turned 40 too...I was not happy about it, but it actually didn't hurt at all LOL....so, happy early birthday!!
Heather G
Those meetings are huge and when you walk in there for the first time it feels like everyone knows someone but you. Don't take back your feelings...they are yours and its ok to feel what ever you feel.
I live right outside of Phoenixville. I don't get up to the barix meetings much any more, but I do try to make it to the one at phoenixville Hospital. Everyone is great at both meetings (although Norm is right...he is a bit of a stodgy pain in the ass...those were his words werent they? I will have to go back and check! LOL) If you ever want to get together for lunch or shopping or just sit around and have coffee, let me know! As a side note...I just turned 40 too...I was not happy about it, but it actually didn't hurt at all LOL....so, happy early birthday!!
Heather G
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