Okay not doing so good these days..
I haven't commented on a lot of your other posts because I said my peace awhile back.
But let's talk about "not having a normal schedule" shall we? 3 night of the week I work 7p-7a. 2 nights every other week I commute to NJ and work 11p-7a. On my days off, I stay up at least 24 hours, if not more, in order to "flip" myself back to a "normal" schedule. On on days when I only have off for one night my schedule goes something like this: Work 7p-7a...get home...stay up till about 10pm (so that's 29 hours awake...sometimes with a 2 or 4 hour nap)....sleep like a "normal" person 10p till 7 or 8am...be up most of the day...take a 2 hour nap and go back to work 7p-7a.
Keep in mind this happens at LEAST 2 x a week, if not more....depending on how many nights off I have. Talk about not being on a normal schedule!
It costs you absolutely NOTHING to keep water and snacks at your side, except for the cost of the food. Like Liz said...freeze a water bottle. That way you do not need to buy an ice pack. Put it in a bag (like one from the grocery store) with your food and there you have it, and by the end of the day you have another bottle of water to drink as well.
'I keep track of my water in my head but by the end of the day I don't know' - well - then your not REALLY keeping track of it, are you? There are days I don't write down my water in take - but you can bet your arse by the end of the day (or at anytime during the day) if you ask me how much I've had, I can tell you the amount. I haven't written todays down...but I know I had 20 ounces on the way to work, had 16.9 completed at work, and have my 2nd 16.9 ounce bottle half finished. So that's 53.8 ounces since 9pm. And I'll definately hit 64 before I go to bed...plus all the fluid I drank while I was at home all day today.
As an FYI the doctors at barix keep an eye on the OH board as well - so I can guarantee Dr. p will know some of your posts if not all of them by the time you do go back to see her (although I know you were "rescheduling" your 6 week check up - did you ever? And did you make your appointment for your 3 mos?)
As far as the non supportive thing with the hubby - that's a rough spot to be in, and something I can't begin to give advice on, but something that obviously needs to be worked on or through as the case may be.
your posts generally have the same "tone" to them - knowing what you should be doing, and continuing to refuse to do them.
I can honestly say that until you are ready to begin following the rules - I have no advice or support for you. You need to be the number one support in your new lifestyle and until you are ready to do that - then - nobody else can help you.
as far as "doing something right" because you've lost 62 pounds...the first 6 mos to a year you will lose weight just about no matter what you do. The "trick" is to keep it off. And it's not a "trick" as much as it is following the program - hitting protein goals/fluid goals/vitamin goals/exercise goals.
congratulations on not getting sick - as of yet. And I truly hope you DON'T get sick. Unfortunately, with lack of vitamins and protein, it's only a matter of time before your system goes haywire and begins to fail. And that's when illness and/or weight gain will start to happen.
When you are truly ready for a helping hand, support, and to begin living the post op way feel free to get support. Until then - you will hear nothing else from me.
Pam
But let's talk about "not having a normal schedule" shall we? 3 night of the week I work 7p-7a. 2 nights every other week I commute to NJ and work 11p-7a. On my days off, I stay up at least 24 hours, if not more, in order to "flip" myself back to a "normal" schedule. On on days when I only have off for one night my schedule goes something like this: Work 7p-7a...get home...stay up till about 10pm (so that's 29 hours awake...sometimes with a 2 or 4 hour nap)....sleep like a "normal" person 10p till 7 or 8am...be up most of the day...take a 2 hour nap and go back to work 7p-7a.
Keep in mind this happens at LEAST 2 x a week, if not more....depending on how many nights off I have. Talk about not being on a normal schedule!
It costs you absolutely NOTHING to keep water and snacks at your side, except for the cost of the food. Like Liz said...freeze a water bottle. That way you do not need to buy an ice pack. Put it in a bag (like one from the grocery store) with your food and there you have it, and by the end of the day you have another bottle of water to drink as well.
'I keep track of my water in my head but by the end of the day I don't know' - well - then your not REALLY keeping track of it, are you? There are days I don't write down my water in take - but you can bet your arse by the end of the day (or at anytime during the day) if you ask me how much I've had, I can tell you the amount. I haven't written todays down...but I know I had 20 ounces on the way to work, had 16.9 completed at work, and have my 2nd 16.9 ounce bottle half finished. So that's 53.8 ounces since 9pm. And I'll definately hit 64 before I go to bed...plus all the fluid I drank while I was at home all day today.
As an FYI the doctors at barix keep an eye on the OH board as well - so I can guarantee Dr. p will know some of your posts if not all of them by the time you do go back to see her (although I know you were "rescheduling" your 6 week check up - did you ever? And did you make your appointment for your 3 mos?)
As far as the non supportive thing with the hubby - that's a rough spot to be in, and something I can't begin to give advice on, but something that obviously needs to be worked on or through as the case may be.
your posts generally have the same "tone" to them - knowing what you should be doing, and continuing to refuse to do them.
I can honestly say that until you are ready to begin following the rules - I have no advice or support for you. You need to be the number one support in your new lifestyle and until you are ready to do that - then - nobody else can help you.
as far as "doing something right" because you've lost 62 pounds...the first 6 mos to a year you will lose weight just about no matter what you do. The "trick" is to keep it off. And it's not a "trick" as much as it is following the program - hitting protein goals/fluid goals/vitamin goals/exercise goals.
congratulations on not getting sick - as of yet. And I truly hope you DON'T get sick. Unfortunately, with lack of vitamins and protein, it's only a matter of time before your system goes haywire and begins to fail. And that's when illness and/or weight gain will start to happen.
When you are truly ready for a helping hand, support, and to begin living the post op way feel free to get support. Until then - you will hear nothing else from me.
Pam
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses. 
Wow, you aren't going to gain any support talking like that. We were all harsh.......we have ALL told you many times about getting on track.
The point is.......as someone trying to BE supportive........it gets old telling the SAME person, OVER and OVER the same thing.
That is the point she was making, as well as almost everyone else.
The point is.......as someone trying to BE supportive........it gets old telling the SAME person, OVER and OVER the same thing.
That is the point she was making, as well as almost everyone else.
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!
I have avoided your posts, because ALL YOU DO IS WHINE AND COMPLAIN.
This make me sick. I want to eat this. I can't find a job. It's not fair. Why is this hard? Why do I have pain? WHAAH WHAAAH WHAAAH
Good people who have forgotten more about this lifestyle than will will probably ever learn are trying to help you, and this is how you react?
I'm sure you could care less (take note - it's two words) about what I have to say either, since I have no desire to coddle you or entertain your incessant f*cking whining.
But you best get your **** together, because the road you're walking on right now does not lead to a healthy new life. It leads to sad-faced internet posts 7-10 months down the road because you're not losing weight, and then you start gaining weight back. Trust me. I've seen it happen time and time and time again.
I bear you no ill will, but goddam, you're not a child, so stop acting like one and get your head in the game.
YOU KNOW WHAT IDK YOU NOR DO I CARE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY AND YOUR RIGHT YOU NEVER POSTED TO MY POSTS BEFORE MAYBE ONE. YOU KNOW SOMETHING YOU ******G JERK! YOU DONT ******G KNOW ME AND I DONT KNOW YOU...BUT ONE THING I DO ******G KNOW EVERYONE ON THIS MUTHA******G SITE TALKS **** ALL THE DAMN TIME ABOUT THEIR LIFE AND WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND THEIR MUTHA******G WHINNING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW DARE YOU ******G SAY **** LIKE THAT TO ME!!!! YOU DONT KNOW ME!!! YES I AM LOOKING FOR ADVICE AND GUIDENCE AND GRANTED YA'LL DO NOT HAVE TO RESPOND UNLESS YOU ******G WANT TO!!! YES I CAN'T HELP THAT I HAVE AN ANGER ISSUE AND I ******G SPEAK MY MUTHA******G MIND!!! I AM NOT NO ******G CHILD EITHER AND BUT I HAVE A GODDAMN RIGHT TO SPEAK HOW THE **** I WANT TOO JUST LIKE YOU DO!!! RIGHT? I MEAN YOU JUST DID IT RIGHT!!!!?? GOOD.
EVERYONE ON THIS MUTHA****** SITE TALKS ABOUT THEIR WHINNING PROBLEMS AND HOW THEY HATE THEIR HUSBANDS AND THIS AND THAT AND HOW DO YOU DO THIS AND THAT AND BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH RIGHT?? YEAH THATS WHAT I THOUGHT. IM NOT THE ONLY ******G PERSON WHO TALKS THEIR ******G PROBLEMS ON THIS ****!!!
EVERYONE ON THIS MUTHA****** SITE TALKS ABOUT THEIR WHINNING PROBLEMS AND HOW THEY HATE THEIR HUSBANDS AND THIS AND THAT AND HOW DO YOU DO THIS AND THAT AND BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH RIGHT?? YEAH THATS WHAT I THOUGHT. IM NOT THE ONLY ******G PERSON WHO TALKS THEIR ******G PROBLEMS ON THIS ****!!!
Dee Pam unfortunately sees people at their worst and helps them. I know her personally and we are very good friends. She has a clinical background being an ER nurse and sees the effects nightly of people not taking care of themselves. Believe me when I tell you that she is harsh because maybe that is what you need to hear. We are here to support you but can only do so if you make the initiative to help yourself.
Norm too is right - you are on a dangerous road that no one here wants to see you go down...
Norm too is right - you are on a dangerous road that no one here wants to see you go down...
Dee,
Everyone has said a mouthful already. Not to mention, you already know what you are doing wrong. *IF* you really want this to work, you have to follow the rules.
I may be wrong, and forgive me if I am, but you seem to have gotten into this thinking that you would have surgery, lose weight, and not have to try or work at it. And if that is the case, I feel sorry for you. I can't imagine you were not educated about this before surgery. So you had to of known the commitment it takes.
When I had my surgery, there wasn't near the support there is for those of you who are having surgery now. And I STILL followed the rules.
NO ONE can control your actions. If you choose to continue on this path you are taking, you will end up gaining all the weight back. Then you will be on here crying about how the WLS *failed* you. Before that happens, take control of yourself and your life. You are the only one who can do that.
As far as your hubby.....don't take his crap! I HATE quoting Oprah.....but she has one statement that I whole heartedly believe.....
Someone can only treat you in a way that you ALLOW them to (give or take a few words)
If you allow him to speak to you that way, he will continue to do so. Trust me......I have lived and I know. I had to make a decision about wether I wanted to continue to live like that or not. And you may have to do the same.
Everyone has said a mouthful already. Not to mention, you already know what you are doing wrong. *IF* you really want this to work, you have to follow the rules.
I may be wrong, and forgive me if I am, but you seem to have gotten into this thinking that you would have surgery, lose weight, and not have to try or work at it. And if that is the case, I feel sorry for you. I can't imagine you were not educated about this before surgery. So you had to of known the commitment it takes.
When I had my surgery, there wasn't near the support there is for those of you who are having surgery now. And I STILL followed the rules.
NO ONE can control your actions. If you choose to continue on this path you are taking, you will end up gaining all the weight back. Then you will be on here crying about how the WLS *failed* you. Before that happens, take control of yourself and your life. You are the only one who can do that.
As far as your hubby.....don't take his crap! I HATE quoting Oprah.....but she has one statement that I whole heartedly believe.....
Someone can only treat you in a way that you ALLOW them to (give or take a few words)
If you allow him to speak to you that way, he will continue to do so. Trust me......I have lived and I know. I had to make a decision about wether I wanted to continue to live like that or not. And you may have to do the same.
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!
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