Are you judgemental now?

The story is it is not our job to worry about who needs surgery and who doesn't. I understand how so many of us feel re-newed with our discovery of WLS and want to help the world of obese people all around us. That world is forever growing for so many reasons. Before surgery if someone came up to you, someone you didn't know and said, " Hi I had WLS last year and I lost 100 lbs. I think it can work for you too. What do you think? Are you interested?" What would your answer have been? To walk away pissed? To cuss them out? To strike them down where they stand? Or to inquire and listen? We all know the answer and it would not have been the later. We all had to be ready, we all had to find out on own way and so does everyone else. Let them, but if they come to you and ask about you and your journey, you have a choice. Some of us are not forthcoming about our journey and some are. Do what is right for you and believe everyone else will find the will to do the same.

Dennis

Oh my gosh!  I would never seek someone out and just start talking.  I don't volunteer my info as it is- and frankly have problems letting people know.  But, if I was in a capacity where people were seeking help and answers- that would be what work I would like to do.

Wise man that Dennis Belk. Same advice he and his better half Beth gave me when I wanted to try to talk hubby into this surgery. It has to be that person's choice.  Although I do have one thing to say and Dennis you know I always do.....when someone tells me OMG I can't give this and that up I desperately try to shut my big mouth from blurting out...hey but this and that is what got you to the point you are at. I hear Dennis laughing but I am right about this one.  They have to just like us to want to do this and nothing we say or do will make them do it.  I think the word is we get frustrated when we see others because they like us have options to do something about it.  But like Dennis said they have to want to do it.  Their bodies their choices.

Everyone seemed to focus on the first half of you post so I will chime in with the later portion..."Feeling Different"

When we have surgery they fix our stomachs so we do not eat high volumes of food and lose the excess weight. They do not fix our little messed up brains. What you are feeling is right on the money at this point. We know that we lost weight and people tell us we look different (skinny, smaller and such) but our brains are 6 months behind our bodies in terms of thinking and can take up to 18 months to catch up. I still at 16 months out from surgery do not see the changes all the time in myself. I look in the mirror see the old 300+ pound self. Then I have days I look in the same mirror and see the smaller me.

Then I put clothes away after laundry and think who do these belong to not me they are too small. Then I put something on and it fits.
Give yourself time and it will all catch up~ 

PS...Yes I do notice people more now because I think we are tune to it but I also know everyone has their own journey to travel and not all will see they have this option and also some "fat" people are healthy and accept it so to each is his/her own...Plus I still walk into a room and feel like the fat girl everyone is looking at so I try to control my thoughts if I ever think them when people watching.