My Thoughts/Experiences with Support Groups
Some of what I got out of last nights support group was that I can take charge of my tool at any time, because there may be times and now is one of them that I am not doing all that I need to and so I need my support groups in order to remind me, that reaching a goal is not the end of this journey and I think the further out we get, the more "normal" our lives become, and therein lies the danger of regain, which is a big fear of mine.
I worked so hard to get where I am and lately I've lost some of the wind in my sails, so to speak, I am not exercising, which makes me feel guilty, the scale has crept up some, but is still within 5 lbs. of lowest weight and I do a fairly good job of planning and journaling what I eat to keep myself honest and on track. I miss the exercise portion of things, however, I can't bring myself to spend the time in the gym, when I don't have things I need to do, or things of a social nature, I just want to be at home with Dillinger.
As I come closer to my 2 year post-surgical time, I had hoped to be at my goal, which in truth is not far from being realized, so while I can recognize the achievements, I still have an unrealized goal that makes me feel that I have failed somehow. There is my addict brain thought process, black/white for all to see, never enough. . . What I have to reply to that thought process is I've had lots of life challenges this past year, things that would have sent me searching for consolation in the form of my first true love, FOOD. . . I can say that with all honesty, I seldom gave in to it and mostly did not even consider it
So why I am sharing this with all of you, as a way to purge the negative from my mind and to let you know that some days just knowing that we are all on the same journey, no matter the distance from it, it's the commaradiere that we share within the support of regular attendance at support groups that keeps me looking for and counting my blessings and knowing that the number on the scale does not determine my success for this day.
Thanks for all you people who come to support groups, who share your successes and challenges and let me know I am never alone.
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Right back at ya. I totally agree about accountability and a little bit of what you are going thru is your personal "sub committes" talking to you and I agree with you and Shauna I woke up this morning and started knocking some of those sub committes out of my mind. It's a daily process for me these days. Unfortunately. Hang in there I know you will get to your goal you already are a very sexy mama. lol.
-Shilpa
People comment on my over 100 pound weight loss and attribute it to my WILLpower, but it is my WANTpower: I WANT to be thin and healthy more than anything else!
I also agree with the statement about how "more normal" our lives become. The first year is so much change, so much learning, so much....everything. And now that it's not so "new" as I too approach my 2nd year surgiversary - I have to remember to KEEP it new for me, to keep ME in the perspective of everything.
Congrats!
Pam
Some days your the dog and some days your the hydrant.
Nan, I'm glad you were able to take something I said and make it work for you. And it is true, quitting IS NOT an option. The minute you allow yourself to quit means you have given up fighting for something you worked so hard to obtain. You're a prime example of why quitting is not an option. You've worked it, worked it, worked it and worked it and look at the results. You've done fantastic.
And Norm is right Nan, you don't have to quote me. You can use it any time you wish. This way you don't have to get on people's nerves by mentioning my name. Wait, how'd Andy get to see Norm's reply when Norm blocked him? Oh yeah, that's right, Andy has a reading account and can see every post. Too bad it had to come down to that.
"No matter how hard life may get, no matter how many curveballs you are thrown, keep in mind, if you want to succeed - QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION"!!!
Support is a great way to help keep ourselves focused, although ultimately, in the long run, we are our own drivers, and nobody can live our lives for us!
PS - Go to the gym!
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
