Bathing suit WOW but then again....
So, Siehara and I went to JCPenney on Sunday and ended up looking at bathing suits because they were all 70% off. I NEEDED a 2nd one since we are going to the beach and I cannot be around sand without having a back up suit..eww... Siehara just wanted another one and since the price was right, I agreed.
Well, I picked up a size 12 figuring the one I bought at the beginning of the summer is a 14 and fits pretty well, but could be a bit tighter. The 12 FIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It looks really nice, too!! That's my WOW!! A freakin' size 12 bathing suit OMG! The one that was falling off me from last year was a 22.
Now to the other side of the post. Siehara is 10 years old (11 in October) She is almost as tall as me, and it just hit home that she is also the same size. She also picked up a size 12 and it fits her. Now, it fits her differently than me since she has not really developed yet, but it's still a 12. I am not sure if she realized that we were trying on the same size. I hope not. I want to help her, but I don't want her to have a complex about it. I did put on a bathing suit like the one she ended up buying because I wanted to see what a halter top type looked like on me (not enough support) and she could tell it didn't fit right--so that was good.
My issue now is helping her. In the house, all we have is healthy stuff. The problem is out of the house. She is like me.. She eats because the food is there. She is in counseling for her other issues, so I am going to bring up to the counselor about her eating and hope they can help to nip the emotional/boredom eating now before it gets worse. We were hoping her ADHD meds would suppress her appetite, but if they did, she is just eating for the sake of eating. UGH what a vicious cycle.
Well, I picked up a size 12 figuring the one I bought at the beginning of the summer is a 14 and fits pretty well, but could be a bit tighter. The 12 FIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It looks really nice, too!! That's my WOW!! A freakin' size 12 bathing suit OMG! The one that was falling off me from last year was a 22.
Now to the other side of the post. Siehara is 10 years old (11 in October) She is almost as tall as me, and it just hit home that she is also the same size. She also picked up a size 12 and it fits her. Now, it fits her differently than me since she has not really developed yet, but it's still a 12. I am not sure if she realized that we were trying on the same size. I hope not. I want to help her, but I don't want her to have a complex about it. I did put on a bathing suit like the one she ended up buying because I wanted to see what a halter top type looked like on me (not enough support) and she could tell it didn't fit right--so that was good.
My issue now is helping her. In the house, all we have is healthy stuff. The problem is out of the house. She is like me.. She eats because the food is there. She is in counseling for her other issues, so I am going to bring up to the counselor about her eating and hope they can help to nip the emotional/boredom eating now before it gets worse. We were hoping her ADHD meds would suppress her appetite, but if they did, she is just eating for the sake of eating. UGH what a vicious cycle.
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Hey girl, congrats..my mom and I wear the same size too now, but she is fifty pounds lighter than me, but is allot shorter, she wears all my stuff when we travel and I can't wear hers because they are too short.....lol....now my shoe size will always be bigger, she is a 7 and me well was a ll now l0..........................wanted to say as a little girl I ate for comfort and out of bordem and lack of having my mom around to Love me in person, you are there in person and are a good mom, and kids also learn from example in allot of other ways, so you eating right and making the right decision when you have things pop up in your daily life with influence her too...I will pray for your little girl and you. you are lucky to have each other....I had to leave my mom when my parents broke up at 7 years of age and moved in with my grandparents, they were extremely strict and cold in showing feelings, they thought that showed weakness, so to say, I don't ever remember my gram saying I love you verbally, but did it by providing three meals and day and clean clothes...................well to say as I did in another post before, I got my comfort from going out and buying l00 pieces of penny choc. and sitting up on the railroad tracks and eating it, all of it, l00 on them!!!! and when I visited my mom in phila over the summer months she would buy me anything I waned to MAKE UP for the sititatuon I was living in and her guilt....now we live next store to each other , she is 81 and I know she did the best she knew how then, but from my past I see now how I did what I did, in many ways, not just food......so what I am really saying is you are a wonderful good mom Lisa and be proud of all you have accomplished and still will, \Lois
Lisa-
Congrats on the 12!!!!! WOO HOO!!! You must feel awesome!!!!!!!!
That is terrific...you are certainly working hard and it shows!!!!!
As for Siehara and eating... I can so relate to that as we have the same issue with Barry's younger daughter Cheyenne...she is 13 and she is just as tall as me and probablyweighs a good 30-40 lbs more than me now....she eats in secret...and then tells us she didnt eat all the stuff that has just disappeared from the fridge...but we know she does.
She gets home at 3 pm and we get home at 330 pm during the school year ..so according to Stacey Barry's older daughter--Cheyenne gets as much food as she can and runs up to her room and eats...then she has dinner and then comes down late at night when we are in bed and continues eating....she has a lot of emotional problems and we are hoping the counseling and the doctors are able to help her because it is out of control at this point....and right now she is with her grandmother for a few weeks soooooo I know Grandma is spoiling her...ugg vicious cycle...
It is my hope that by having only healthy options in the house and showing her that treats are just that "a treat" not a meal she will see how much better it is to eat to fuel her body not eat because she is bored....We are trying to lead by example
Hopefully your example and your love and support will also break the cycle for your daughter too....it soo hard though isnt it?? Counseling is def a good start I think....Keep me posted and I'll keep you posted with how things are going on this end.
Much luvv!!!
Laura
Congrats on the 12!!!!! WOO HOO!!! You must feel awesome!!!!!!!!
That is terrific...you are certainly working hard and it shows!!!!!
As for Siehara and eating... I can so relate to that as we have the same issue with Barry's younger daughter Cheyenne...she is 13 and she is just as tall as me and probablyweighs a good 30-40 lbs more than me now....she eats in secret...and then tells us she didnt eat all the stuff that has just disappeared from the fridge...but we know she does.
She gets home at 3 pm and we get home at 330 pm during the school year ..so according to Stacey Barry's older daughter--Cheyenne gets as much food as she can and runs up to her room and eats...then she has dinner and then comes down late at night when we are in bed and continues eating....she has a lot of emotional problems and we are hoping the counseling and the doctors are able to help her because it is out of control at this point....and right now she is with her grandmother for a few weeks soooooo I know Grandma is spoiling her...ugg vicious cycle...
It is my hope that by having only healthy options in the house and showing her that treats are just that "a treat" not a meal she will see how much better it is to eat to fuel her body not eat because she is bored....We are trying to lead by example
Hopefully your example and your love and support will also break the cycle for your daughter too....it soo hard though isnt it?? Counseling is def a good start I think....Keep me posted and I'll keep you posted with how things are going on this end.
Much luvv!!!
Laura
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GREAT News Lisa! You must be sooooo excited!
What is the complete opposite of a "WOW"? That's what I had with my bathing suit experience!
And I understand the food thing with your daughter. My son is 10. And weighs more than he "should". At my house, he eats great and I am strict with snacks and meals. But he is with me one week, with his dad one week. And I know at his dad's it isn't a priority to eat healthy and limit junk foods. So, it's tough.
What is the complete opposite of a "WOW"? That's what I had with my bathing suit experience!
And I understand the food thing with your daughter. My son is 10. And weighs more than he "should". At my house, he eats great and I am strict with snacks and meals. But he is with me one week, with his dad one week. And I know at his dad's it isn't a priority to eat healthy and limit junk foods. So, it's tough.
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congrats on the bathing suit WOW! I am a recent bathing suit wower myself and frankly if I could I'd wear a bathinsuit to work, I would 
As for your daughter, i've seen her pictures on FB and she's darling, and yes you can see she's on the same road as we were. I wish I had some advise, but I don't since if it weren't for surgery, I'd still be that fat kid too
I am just so so so grateful that none of my children have weight/food issues. My boys (13 & 15) are healthy fit kids and my 3 year old girl is normal weight right now and will hopefully (fingers crossed) never know me as a fat mom. For me from the start with my kids, I never made them "eat all their dinner" and I never rewarded them with food. I know at 13 it's kind of too late to change those things. But I agree a good therapist may help her work out her issues.
Agian congrats on your bathing suit and best of luck with your little girl.
As for your daughter, i've seen her pictures on FB and she's darling, and yes you can see she's on the same road as we were. I wish I had some advise, but I don't since if it weren't for surgery, I'd still be that fat kid too
I am just so so so grateful that none of my children have weight/food issues. My boys (13 & 15) are healthy fit kids and my 3 year old girl is normal weight right now and will hopefully (fingers crossed) never know me as a fat mom. For me from the start with my kids, I never made them "eat all their dinner" and I never rewarded them with food. I know at 13 it's kind of too late to change those things. But I agree a good therapist may help her work out her issues.Agian congrats on your bathing suit and best of luck with your little girl.
Congrats on the suit!
I don't really have any advice on Sierrha...except that I've been there, done that as a child (hence where I am as an adult....) I can CLEARLY remember hiding candy in my pockets and eating it in the bathroom so no one would know...and I was probably about 10 or 11 at that time. I had/have serious issues with food. My mom took me to the pediatrician when I was 4 and voiced concerns that I would "eat 4 plumbs" in a sitting. Unfortunately, in the 80s, childhood obesity wasn't a big concern and their response was "well, just give her one"
I yo-yo dieted WITH my mom from a very early age....even doing "Jane Fonda Step Aerobics" as early as 6th or 7th grade with her.
I don't have any advice to give you regarding how to help her without giving her a complex...but I think bringing it up in the therapy sessions might be a good start.
*hugs*
Pam
I don't really have any advice on Sierrha...except that I've been there, done that as a child (hence where I am as an adult....) I can CLEARLY remember hiding candy in my pockets and eating it in the bathroom so no one would know...and I was probably about 10 or 11 at that time. I had/have serious issues with food. My mom took me to the pediatrician when I was 4 and voiced concerns that I would "eat 4 plumbs" in a sitting. Unfortunately, in the 80s, childhood obesity wasn't a big concern and their response was "well, just give her one"
I yo-yo dieted WITH my mom from a very early age....even doing "Jane Fonda Step Aerobics" as early as 6th or 7th grade with her.
I don't have any advice to give you regarding how to help her without giving her a complex...but I think bringing it up in the therapy sessions might be a good start.
*hugs*
Pam
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Hi Lisa I am so glad to hear that you are doing so wonderful. I have the same issues with Heather she is 14 years old and I love her to death and I am very concerned about her weight. I am 148 and she is 184 and my way of resolving this or trying to is to not bring junk food in the house. Easier said than done I am afraid. You are doing the right thing by just having healthy stuff try fruits and yogurts and 1% milk you know things like that and whatever you do don't make comments its a hard thing to do I know. And out of the house like I always say to my husband I can control what you eat in the house but once you hit the driveway you are on your own. You may want to discreetly mention to her friend's parents in a noncalant way that you are watching your daughter's eating habits but nicely . Remember when we were there before WLS we didn't want to hear it until we had to take ownership of it. Yep its a vicious cycle but we personally ourselves know it has to come to an end. I don't want Heather to become the next WLS person because I know what its like . We have a natural instint to protect our children and we do the best we can. Enjoy your new bathing suit that is really great. I did the same thing to Heather kiddingly I saw the same exact bathing suit at Walmart that I had bought her in Walmart and said to her how about we have Mother and Daughter's matching suit and needless to say she wasn't happy about it. I guess she has always known Mom as being overweight if you know what I mean. Hang in there. Now her friends think I am the coolest Mom ever because they can talk to me about anything and I don't judge or shock.
Hi Lisa,
Congrats on your new WOW! There will be plenty to come so get ready!
Siehara is yours, she's your girl, she's got your genes and she has your love. Just continue doing what you're doing. Take care of her and get her whatever help she needs to develop. Nuture her. Educate her. Always be the one she can come to when her mind is happy or busy. She's still growing and as much as we don't want our children to have to travel down certain roads, roads we are all too familiar with, we may not be able to prevent those steps. We can only advise and guide. Be there for that pat on the back when she excels and be there for that hug of comfort if she falls. Be her Momma.
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