UPDATE --On the "FRIEND"
As some of you are aware I have had a bit of an issue with a former friend that I reconnected with on FB...getting a bit obsessive and harassing me.
I actually deleted my original post because I did not feel comfortable--I actaully felt embarrassed and ashamed when I was told by another poster that I (and I am paraphrasing a bit here) "asked for this to happen...because I thought it was exciting and illicit" But the more I talked it over with my husband, my family, and the authorities I realized I had nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about because I did not go into theis thinking of my firend as a romatic ideal...he was just my old best friend that I was excited to see and so....THAT WAS NEVER MY INTENTION WHEN BECOMING FRIENDS
WITH THIS PERSON.... as for the poster who made the remark I did in fact invite my husband to attend the lunch with me. He was unable to attend. I went into this quite innocent to what was happening and maybe I am stupid and naieve...but I never in a million years thought things would spiral so far out of hand.
Anyways, it did get worse as many of you had predicted and hubby and I were ready. We documented everything and printed everything. Notified the authorities and followed all the protocol . Then yesterday I was flooded with a myriad of emotional and very stressful emails about how much "he loved and needed me" "How could I throw him away like garbage?" "I am his life."
The police told me to send one final strongly worded email telling him to stop and if he doesn't then we will have to get a restraining order. I sent the final email and a few hours later he sent me a "Goodbye" email where he told me he "Would love me forever" and he "Dares me to forget him"
So I feel as if it might be over or it has run its course as of now...
But Our close friend who is also a police officer said to be prepared for it to start up again...if this is a game to him..it hasn't finished as this is what the officer has seen in the past. I am hoping it is just done....
But I just wanted to thank everyone for the words of support and encouragement and I thank God everyday I can come to this board when I need help!!! Thank you ...Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers!!
Much Luv!!
Laura
I actually deleted my original post because I did not feel comfortable--I actaully felt embarrassed and ashamed when I was told by another poster that I (and I am paraphrasing a bit here) "asked for this to happen...because I thought it was exciting and illicit" But the more I talked it over with my husband, my family, and the authorities I realized I had nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about because I did not go into theis thinking of my firend as a romatic ideal...he was just my old best friend that I was excited to see and so....THAT WAS NEVER MY INTENTION WHEN BECOMING FRIENDS
WITH THIS PERSON.... as for the poster who made the remark I did in fact invite my husband to attend the lunch with me. He was unable to attend. I went into this quite innocent to what was happening and maybe I am stupid and naieve...but I never in a million years thought things would spiral so far out of hand.
Anyways, it did get worse as many of you had predicted and hubby and I were ready. We documented everything and printed everything. Notified the authorities and followed all the protocol . Then yesterday I was flooded with a myriad of emotional and very stressful emails about how much "he loved and needed me" "How could I throw him away like garbage?" "I am his life."
The police told me to send one final strongly worded email telling him to stop and if he doesn't then we will have to get a restraining order. I sent the final email and a few hours later he sent me a "Goodbye" email where he told me he "Would love me forever" and he "Dares me to forget him"
So I feel as if it might be over or it has run its course as of now...
But Our close friend who is also a police officer said to be prepared for it to start up again...if this is a game to him..it hasn't finished as this is what the officer has seen in the past. I am hoping it is just done....
But I just wanted to thank everyone for the words of support and encouragement and I thank God everyday I can come to this board when I need help!!! Thank you ...Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers!!
Much Luv!!
Laura
Laura
"Two roads diverged in a wood..and I took the one less travelled by and that has made all the difference." -Robert Frost
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Thanks so much Shannon!!! I am praying for him and I hope he gets the help he needs and finds whatever it is he is looking for...I am just going to keep on hanging in and hope and pray for the best!!!!
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Laura
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Laura
Laura
"Two roads diverged in a wood..and I took the one less travelled by and that has made all the difference." -Robert Frost
Over 176+ lbs lost since surgery!! :-)
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Liz--Thank you so much! I am really hoping and praying it is over now....and that my life goes on as before....
My only worry is that he lives literally 2 mins from my work and he knows where I work...sooooooo I ma just praying he has let it go and is moving on...
Thanks!!
Laura
My only worry is that he lives literally 2 mins from my work and he knows where I work...sooooooo I ma just praying he has let it go and is moving on...
Thanks!!
Laura
Laura
"Two roads diverged in a wood..and I took the one less travelled by and that has made all the difference." -Robert Frost
Over 176+ lbs lost since surgery!! :-)
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Laura - if you have a good relationship with your superiors let them know, just in case. You don't have to be specific, just tell them that you need all visitors to sign in because of an issue that you had over the summer.
If you are there at nighta nd don't feel comfortable walking to your car - ask someone to go out with you
*hugs* I'll all work out!
If you are there at nighta nd don't feel comfortable walking to your car - ask someone to go out with you
*hugs* I'll all work out!
Thanks Liz! Yes I have already decided to let my boss and the secretary know that they are not to let anyone in the building who comes looking for me except my hubby..whom they know. I am just going to tell them I had an incident over the summer and the authorities are aware.
Thanks so much!! ((((HUGS))))
Laura
Thanks so much!! ((((HUGS))))
Laura
Laura
"Two roads diverged in a wood..and I took the one less travelled by and that has made all the difference." -Robert Frost
Over 176+ lbs lost since surgery!! :-)
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WOW, for someone to say that you asked for it is like telling a rape victim that dresses sexy they asked for it.
No one walks in your shoes and I am glad you stood up for yourself, because only you knows the real deal.
Be good to yourself and don't blame yourself for someone else's mental health issues.
:)
No one walks in your shoes and I am glad you stood up for yourself, because only you knows the real deal.
Be good to yourself and don't blame yourself for someone else's mental health issues.
:)
Kate-
I think the poster that said that was trying to make a point and be blunt...I have gotten other rather tactless replies from this person in the past....but this one hit me so hard cause I was in the midst of an emotional breakdown over the whole situation and was not looking to be blamed I was already blaming myself quite hard.
Anyways, I am praying for this to be over now so I can move on with my life and not feel like I am constantly looking over my shoulder.
Thank you!!!!
Laura
I think the poster that said that was trying to make a point and be blunt...I have gotten other rather tactless replies from this person in the past....but this one hit me so hard cause I was in the midst of an emotional breakdown over the whole situation and was not looking to be blamed I was already blaming myself quite hard.
Anyways, I am praying for this to be over now so I can move on with my life and not feel like I am constantly looking over my shoulder.
Thank you!!!!
Laura
Laura
"Two roads diverged in a wood..and I took the one less travelled by and that has made all the difference." -Robert Frost
Over 176+ lbs lost since surgery!! :-)
See my profile for my OH Blog!!
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