thoughts about progressing and successing and our pasts.

thank you all for taking the time to answer me so openly and honestly.  That is exactly why I came to all of you with this.  I am going to leave the pictures up on facebook. They are inspiring to me.  I love seeing all of the compliments and such on the albums.  It is encouraging and like was said here, may be inspiring to others.  

This IS MY journey and I have fought and will continue to fight the good fight against obesity.

THANKS!!!!!!

Hey Lisa:

I agree with what others have posted. I also think when you/we were heavier our weight was who were, now that we're losing the weight that is a part of who we are as well.

His comment almost makesit sound like he wants you to hide it or not discuss it any longer and that would be of concern especially since you're not a year out yet and losing the weight, managing your life and keeping the weight off will be of importance in the 1st few years and most likely forever.

Hey Chanel, I don't think he is trying to make me hide it. I think that he just wants me to appreciate who I am now.  I did tell him that I wouldn't be who I am now if it wasn't for the surgery.  I have grown so much in the past 5 months.  He understood where I was coming from, but just wanted me to know how he felt.  I appreciate his opinion and will still keep my pics up.

Just got this comment on my wall on facebook.. this came from someone who is having surgery in August.  The timing could not have been any better.

Hi Lisa! As my day nears I just want to thank you for allowing me to follow you through your posts and pics. I hope to be as successful as you have become. You look amazing and you look like you feel amazing. I hope your proud of yourself

This was just perfect to get today!

Lisa,

You should always do what YOU feel comfortable doing...without worrying about what others think, say, suggest etc.... (ha! I should be taking my own advice)

Now that I am 2 years post-op, I often regret (just a tad, because I like to live by the no regrets rule) being so public with everything because now i feel like i've let people in too far.  I feel like people compare and assume things (but then again that could just be me comparing and assuming that people are assuming).  Am I making sense here???

Anyway- always say what you feel and do what makes you proud.  You're the one going through this..not them.

I did not read all of the responses.....

I was fairly selective in telling people about my surgery.  Meaning except for my IMMEDIATE family (parents, in laws, brothers) NO ONE in the family knows about my surgery.  However, just about ALL of my friends do (there are a select few who do not), and if I'm asked by co workers etc I do tell them (My former co workers all knew about it when I was going through it)

I personally, feel, that the weight loss journey NEEDS to be the center of your life right now.  I've been told the year after surgery will be your selfish year EVER and I truly believe in that.

As far as not keeping past pictures up on face book and stuff - I don't agree with that.  I, personally, need to see the difference in myself.  I may not see it every day  - but when I look back at pics, I CERTAINLY realize and APPRECIATE who I am and who I am becoming each and every day.

He did have a good point - the fact that you are working so hard and being so dedicated is VERY important, and a true marker of your successing if you will.

You have every right to be damn proud of all you have accomplished!

Pam

Maybe he meant not to give the credit to the surgery but to YOURSELF for the hard work? Cause you know, it's a tool. WE do the work.