Surgery is getting the best of my attitude..
Well, i think you hit the nail on the head with your subject line.... haha.
There are physical reasons and psychological reasons behind it. If you read "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" she talks about how you're going through a withdrawal process from several brain-addictive substances (sugar, refined carbs, fats, etc.... a different mix for each person). During the 3 week main part of the withdrawal process, you're likely to be cranky, unusually emotional, impulsive... and it's not a time to be making big decisions.
Additionally, the after-effects of anesthesia drugs (which can stay in your body for up to 2 weeks) can really wack out your head in a lot of ways. It's difficult to form short-term memories in that time period, and the morphine can also do a lot of weird things to emotional processing (not to mention giving you really weird dreams).
A little further out (i think it's supposed to be about the 3 month period?) as your body really starts processing the "deep" fat, there's another emotional roller-coaster as all the estrogen stored in that fat gets released... kinda link a month-long PMS... Yeah... really looking forward to that one .
That's just the physical side of things. You're also adjusting emotionally to a "new you" who cannot use food as a self-soother or emotional barrier. That means you need to actually FEEL the things that upset you and deal with them. If that's something that you're not used to doing, you don't have the tools (or thick skin) yet to handle them gracefully. There's likely FEAR of what the "new you" will be/look/feel like and how those around you will react to the new person. And setting up new and more healthy behaviors means that some of the old standards (like going out to a huge dinner with friends as your means of socializing) need to change in some fundamental ways (the friends and conversation become the center more than the eating).
Again, I'd refer you to Anne Katherine's book, as it is a tremendous help in working through those issues.
Obviously, way too much to include in a posting, but you're normal and going through completely expected stuff... and to be successful, it's important to work through it and stick it out.
HUGS... we're all here with you.
Karen
There are physical reasons and psychological reasons behind it. If you read "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" she talks about how you're going through a withdrawal process from several brain-addictive substances (sugar, refined carbs, fats, etc.... a different mix for each person). During the 3 week main part of the withdrawal process, you're likely to be cranky, unusually emotional, impulsive... and it's not a time to be making big decisions.
Additionally, the after-effects of anesthesia drugs (which can stay in your body for up to 2 weeks) can really wack out your head in a lot of ways. It's difficult to form short-term memories in that time period, and the morphine can also do a lot of weird things to emotional processing (not to mention giving you really weird dreams).
A little further out (i think it's supposed to be about the 3 month period?) as your body really starts processing the "deep" fat, there's another emotional roller-coaster as all the estrogen stored in that fat gets released... kinda link a month-long PMS... Yeah... really looking forward to that one .
That's just the physical side of things. You're also adjusting emotionally to a "new you" who cannot use food as a self-soother or emotional barrier. That means you need to actually FEEL the things that upset you and deal with them. If that's something that you're not used to doing, you don't have the tools (or thick skin) yet to handle them gracefully. There's likely FEAR of what the "new you" will be/look/feel like and how those around you will react to the new person. And setting up new and more healthy behaviors means that some of the old standards (like going out to a huge dinner with friends as your means of socializing) need to change in some fundamental ways (the friends and conversation become the center more than the eating).
Again, I'd refer you to Anne Katherine's book, as it is a tremendous help in working through those issues.
Obviously, way too much to include in a posting, but you're normal and going through completely expected stuff... and to be successful, it's important to work through it and stick it out.
HUGS... we're all here with you.
Karen
Karen said everything I would have said, and then some. Between the lack of comfort foods, the meds for pain and the anasthesia, your brain and emotions are going through a lot of changes.
Now is a time for some self-soothing practice. Deep breathing exercises, meditation, soothing music, prayer (if that is your practice) etc. Just escape the routine, the family, and spend about 15 minutes alone with some soothing music each day.
I also find journaling my feelings and weird thoughts helps me tremendously.
Hang in there.
Big Hugs,
Trish
Now is a time for some self-soothing practice. Deep breathing exercises, meditation, soothing music, prayer (if that is your practice) etc. Just escape the routine, the family, and spend about 15 minutes alone with some soothing music each day.
I also find journaling my feelings and weird thoughts helps me tremendously.
Hang in there.
Big Hugs,
Trish
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