Anyone get emotional a few days before surgery?
Anyone get really emotional before your surgery...today all i can do is want to start ballin my eyes out even though i keep holdin the tears back. Like I want to talk to someone..and it seems that everyone around me is busy with graduation parties and things...and well I have no idea what to do..my best friend is in rehab and I have no one to cry too...I am soo missin my best friend and I am crying over it because she was suppose to be here for me and well she had to go to rehab and I was not going to stop that..and of course when ppl go to rehab you cannot talk to them. Did anyone else feel this way? OMg I pray that it gets better and not worse after surgery...
That's why you have US! We are ALWAYS here and will always listen!
What you are going through is totally normal, it is a life changing event, a milestone if you will and it is finally coming true after all of the planning and prep work. Hang in there - it does get better!! The next week will be the worst - the few days before and the few days after - then you are on your way to the new you!!! Try to relax -call a friend or loved one - I think you mentioned that you are married or have a signifigant other - corner them - that's what they are there for! lol My Mom was my outlet at the time.
*hugs* hang in there!!
Liz
What you are going through is totally normal, it is a life changing event, a milestone if you will and it is finally coming true after all of the planning and prep work. Hang in there - it does get better!! The next week will be the worst - the few days before and the few days after - then you are on your way to the new you!!! Try to relax -call a friend or loved one - I think you mentioned that you are married or have a signifigant other - corner them - that's what they are there for! lol My Mom was my outlet at the time.
*hugs* hang in there!!
Liz
Lisa,
YOU BET!!!! You're completely normal! You'll be on an emotional roller-coaster for the next week or so, so throw up your hands and just try to enjoy the ride. Scream when it makes sense and yell "woo hoo" when THAT makes sense.
Think of it this way - you are in labor, about to give birth to the new YOU. Part of that whole process is adjustment and fear and excitement... and anger about having gotten to the point that this is necessary... and regret for lost opportunities... and fear about what life after bypass MIGHT be like... and fear about whether you'll be the first person this DOESN'T work for... and so many other things. What you're going through now and for the next few days are your labor pains. And what comes out at the end of them will be your second chance to re-build your life and your body the way YOU want them to be... with YOU firmly in control of the choices you make and the end results, as you use this tool to reshape yourself.
Your friend in rehab is going through an intense recovery process. In many ways, you're starting to go through the exact same thing, and much of her journey will resonate with you as you work through the after-surgery stuff that we all end up addressing. If you haven't yet - read "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" (by Anne Katherine) to see what I mean. It will help you clearly relate to your friend's experience (and support her recovery) and may also help you work through some of what YOU will be feeling post-surgery. It was a transformative book for me and I'm still working through the exercises in it (i read it through first, then went back to start working the exercises).
Good luck and keep reaching out. We're here for you. I will be stopping by to see you on Wednesday night - hope you feel up to it! If not, I'll keep it REALLY short and try to stop in on Thursday. But call me if you want or need to talk before then... I'll PM you my number.
HUGS, girl!
karen
YOU BET!!!! You're completely normal! You'll be on an emotional roller-coaster for the next week or so, so throw up your hands and just try to enjoy the ride. Scream when it makes sense and yell "woo hoo" when THAT makes sense.
Think of it this way - you are in labor, about to give birth to the new YOU. Part of that whole process is adjustment and fear and excitement... and anger about having gotten to the point that this is necessary... and regret for lost opportunities... and fear about what life after bypass MIGHT be like... and fear about whether you'll be the first person this DOESN'T work for... and so many other things. What you're going through now and for the next few days are your labor pains. And what comes out at the end of them will be your second chance to re-build your life and your body the way YOU want them to be... with YOU firmly in control of the choices you make and the end results, as you use this tool to reshape yourself.
Your friend in rehab is going through an intense recovery process. In many ways, you're starting to go through the exact same thing, and much of her journey will resonate with you as you work through the after-surgery stuff that we all end up addressing. If you haven't yet - read "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" (by Anne Katherine) to see what I mean. It will help you clearly relate to your friend's experience (and support her recovery) and may also help you work through some of what YOU will be feeling post-surgery. It was a transformative book for me and I'm still working through the exercises in it (i read it through first, then went back to start working the exercises).
Good luck and keep reaching out. We're here for you. I will be stopping by to see you on Wednesday night - hope you feel up to it! If not, I'll keep it REALLY short and try to stop in on Thursday. But call me if you want or need to talk before then... I'll PM you my number.
HUGS, girl!
karen
Denise,
YOU BET!!!! You're completely normal! You'll be on an emotional roller-coaster for the next week or so, so throw up your hands and just try to enjoy the ride. Scream when it makes sense and yell "woo hoo" when THAT makes sense.
Think of it this way - you are in labor, about to give birth to the new YOU. Part of that whole process is adjustment and fear and excitement... and anger about having gotten to the point that this is necessary... and regret for lost opportunities... and fear about what life after bypass MIGHT be like... and fear about whether you'll be the first person this DOESN'T work for... and so many other things. What you're going through now and for the next few days are your labor pains. And what comes out at the end of them will be your second chance to re-build your life and your body the way YOU want them to be... with YOU firmly in control of the choices you make and the end results, as you use this tool to reshape yourself.
Your friend in rehab is going through an intense recovery process. In many ways, you're starting to go through the exact same thing, and much of her journey will resonate with you as you work through the after-surgery stuff that we all end up addressing. If you haven't yet - read "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" (by Anne Katherine) to see what I mean. It will help you clearly relate to your friend's experience (and support her recovery) and may also help you work through some of what YOU will be feeling post-surgery. It was a transformative book for me and I'm still working through the exercises in it (i read it through first, then went back to start working the exercises).
Good luck and keep reaching out. We're here for you. I will be stopping by to see you on Wednesday night - hope you feel up to it! If not, I'll keep it REALLY short and try to stop in on Thursday. But call me if you want or need to talk before then... I'll PM you my number.
HUGS, girl!
karen
YOU BET!!!! You're completely normal! You'll be on an emotional roller-coaster for the next week or so, so throw up your hands and just try to enjoy the ride. Scream when it makes sense and yell "woo hoo" when THAT makes sense.
Think of it this way - you are in labor, about to give birth to the new YOU. Part of that whole process is adjustment and fear and excitement... and anger about having gotten to the point that this is necessary... and regret for lost opportunities... and fear about what life after bypass MIGHT be like... and fear about whether you'll be the first person this DOESN'T work for... and so many other things. What you're going through now and for the next few days are your labor pains. And what comes out at the end of them will be your second chance to re-build your life and your body the way YOU want them to be... with YOU firmly in control of the choices you make and the end results, as you use this tool to reshape yourself.
Your friend in rehab is going through an intense recovery process. In many ways, you're starting to go through the exact same thing, and much of her journey will resonate with you as you work through the after-surgery stuff that we all end up addressing. If you haven't yet - read "Anatomy of a Food Addiction" (by Anne Katherine) to see what I mean. It will help you clearly relate to your friend's experience (and support her recovery) and may also help you work through some of what YOU will be feeling post-surgery. It was a transformative book for me and I'm still working through the exercises in it (i read it through first, then went back to start working the exercises).
Good luck and keep reaching out. We're here for you. I will be stopping by to see you on Wednesday night - hope you feel up to it! If not, I'll keep it REALLY short and try to stop in on Thursday. But call me if you want or need to talk before then... I'll PM you my number.
HUGS, girl!
karen
The only time I got really emotional was when I was in pre-op. After I had gotten into the hospital gown, and the nurses started my IV's, I had a few moments to myself before the anesthesiologist came in. During those moments, I sat there and looked around the room, and my wheels just started turning. I started thinking "how did I allow things to get this bad? Why did I do this to myself, to allow myself to get so big and out of control that now I'm in need of surgery?" And I began to cry....and cry, and cry......and cry. The anesthesiologist came in, and I know he could totally tell that I had just had a meltdown. We talked for a few, and then he ordered a sedative. 
Things were cool after that.
It is completely and utterly normal!!! You will feel a whole gamut of emotions and they will flood you but it is all a part of the process--You are getting ready to begin a whole new life and it is bound to be a little scary and make you feel alone in your feelings but you are not alone!!!!!
We are here and will listen no matter what!! If you need to talk pm me and I will give you my #. You are going to get through this and yoiu are going to be fine--MORE than fine!!!
BIG ((((HUGS))))
Laura
We are here and will listen no matter what!! If you need to talk pm me and I will give you my #. You are going to get through this and yoiu are going to be fine--MORE than fine!!!
BIG ((((HUGS))))
Laura
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I was a mess. I think for me it was a combination of having tried for so long and was getting nervous because it was really happening and just plain old fear and nerves. Two days before I cried all day and night. I felt better the day before once had to start getting ready, but yeah! It's normal.
Bonnie
HW 248.9;SW 221; CW 138.7
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