Well I....

went and did it this time. Oh jeez someone shoot me now! I did something really silly and went and got myself pregnant. I found out yesterday i am like 6 weeks. I am not quite sure how I feel about this considering the father is a psycho that I don't want to tell and I only have about 50% of my cervix left.

From what my doctors told me prior to this, I will probably wind up on bed rest for the entire duration of the pregnancy. The kicker is, I had an appointment Monday with a surgical oncologist to discuss my hysterectomy options. Guess that is out now. I am still having that appointment along with 2 others that day. Fun stuff here.

 So on the other side of things, I am almost 2 years out from my surgery and have been maintaining my weight just fine. There is nothing I can't tolerate in my system. Does anyone have any experience with getting pregnant after having the bypass? How does it differ from a pregnancy of someone who never had the surgery?

So many questions to ask, but don't even know half of them yet. Needless to say I am pretty much scared ****less at this point.....

 

 

Wow Laura....what a rollercoaster you have been on.

Hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant just recently and on that accord I post once in awhile on the pregnancy forum here on OH.  Go under "forums" and under "Weight Loss Related" and there is a pregnancy forum.  There are so many wonderful women on that board.  I'm not sure many have experience with the whole cancer thing on top of bypass on top of being pregnant, but ALL of them have wonderful advice and support.

Congrats on the almost two years - that is awesome right there!

Things will work out the way they are supposed to, even though right now it doesn't appear to be that way, and I can't blame you for being scared outta your mind - I would be too.  Considering I know in your post about the whole cancer thing you mentioned something along the lines of "I guess I didn't want the choice to be able to have kids or not" this is your little miracle that is meant to be.  And if not, things will work out that way too.

All the hugs and support during this difficult time.  You are strong....you've already proven that time and time again.

Pam

Wow! That was the last thing I expected to read, I thought that this was going to be about your hysterectomy.

*hugs* and congrats! someone obviously had a higher plan. I am 2+ years post op and 8 weeks pregnant. If you arent' eating carbs add them back in - the rules are 2000 calories, 90 grams protein, 100 grams carbs. Starting taking pre-natal vitamins (2 a day), 800mg folic acid and 1200 mg calcium citrate. Like Pam said OH has a post op pregnancy board and the ladies are GREAT! You can also PM me if you want to talk. Hope that all turns out well and you arne't on bedrest the entire pregnancy.

I'm not sure what your beliefs are but there are still options at 6 weeks out.

Liz

Thanks Guys,

 

I had my first appointments today. Well I had my appointment with my surgical oncologist this morning. This appointment was the one where he explained exactly what was going on with my cervix and we were going to schedule my hysterectomy today. He supports my decision to try and carry this child to term. 

I had an appointment with my OB GYN. She didn't do much because she needs to refer me to the high risk clinic. She did order my ultrasound (8 am tomorrow) and my intial bloodwork. They both agree that I will need to be on bed rest sooner rather than later. They have also both already mentioned that I may only carry to the point where they know they can do a C-section and have the baby be healthy so they can do that and my hysterectomy at the same time. So that the cancer doesn;t have any extra time to develop. 

On top of all this, I basically have the father, a man who I love and was going to move to Massachusetts to be with until he went psycho, telling me I am a ***** He is telling me until a paternity test is done that he will not take any kind of responsibility or anything for this child. He is claiming now that his doctors say he is sterile and there is no way this is his child. Blah... I don't need to deal with that. 

I have reconnected recently with an old friend from high school who i am getting along with very well and who is absolutely okay with me be pregnant with another mans child. He has even gone as far as to say that when the child is born (implying we will still be together) he will claim the child as his own and raise the child as his own. So screw the man who wants to stress me out during this difficult time. I don't need him or his stress.  My baby doesn't need him or his stress.

Anyway, there is my update. I will update my ticker and let ya'll know exactly how far along I am after my ultasound tomorrow. 

Laura,

Thank you for the update.  Sorry to hear about the issue with the sperm donor.  And even if the relationship aspect of the guy you are seeing now doesn't work out to be a full fledged relationship - at least he will be a HUGE support system for you during this time and the time afterwards, or at least, that's the way it sounds right now.

And as much as you don't need the stress right now...I'd do a paternity test just to **** him off and be able to say "frack you"

Feel free to get in touch w/ me if you ever need anything.

610-330-9801 is home
610-969-6264 is cell

Pam

Pam,

 With everything else I won't do a paternity test until after the baby is born. I am not taking any more risks than necessary with this. Once I have my ultrasound tomorrow and I have a much betterr idea of the conception date, that should be enough for him. I pretty much lived with him for a month and a hlaf, so unless I was sneaking into his roomates room at night.....

 

ANyway! Thank you! I put your numbers in my cell phone if you want to delete them and not leave them out there for the world to see!

I've had my numbers out here before...so whoever wants to stalk me can :)

Oh...and I definately meant after the baby was born....I wouldn't risk it even in a "normal" pregnancy just for a morons sake.  The baby and mom is ALWAYS more important.