how scared were you before surgery?
So I'll admit it...I'm scared now that I have a surgery date. I wasn't expecting it to be so soon...I'm glad it is though, don't get me wrong! I'm really excited to start my new life with help from my surgery, but it is a scary thing.
I'm assuming this is a common thing and if you felt this way what made you feel better or when did you feel less scared?
I'm assuming this is a common thing and if you felt this way what made you feel better or when did you feel less scared?
HECK Yeah! I was scared... right up until the drugs took effect! But the greater part of my kept in focus WHY I was doing this... that it wasn't for vanity, it was to save my life. I made a list of what I was risking by having the surgery (pretty short, as it turned out) and what I was risking by NOT having the surgery. Also what I would lose in each case... Those were pretty powerful things to see on paper and really helped reassure me that I was making the right choice for me. It also helped that my primary doc and my nutritionist were very positive and supportive.
My biggest fears were not the surgery itself (although there were twinges over that as there woudl be with any major surgery) but whether I'd be the "first one who failed" in the restrictions afterward. According to a bunch of folks at the support group, that's a very common fear. So I've been pleasantly surprised at how well I've been coping for this first almost-month afterward.
Does that mean the fear is gone? NOPE. Every day I worry about whether I'll be able to keep this new regimen of exercise and eating in the "new way" ... and that fear is what gets my butt out of bed and into exercise mode as the very first thing I do every morning. Hopefully, it will be what keeps my "edge" as time progresses.
You're not alone. These support groups online and the ones you are hopefully going to in person will help you work through those fears, address them with facts and perspective, and work through them in a positive way. Try to turn that energy into motivation!
My biggest fears were not the surgery itself (although there were twinges over that as there woudl be with any major surgery) but whether I'd be the "first one who failed" in the restrictions afterward. According to a bunch of folks at the support group, that's a very common fear. So I've been pleasantly surprised at how well I've been coping for this first almost-month afterward.
Does that mean the fear is gone? NOPE. Every day I worry about whether I'll be able to keep this new regimen of exercise and eating in the "new way" ... and that fear is what gets my butt out of bed and into exercise mode as the very first thing I do every morning. Hopefully, it will be what keeps my "edge" as time progresses.
You're not alone. These support groups online and the ones you are hopefully going to in person will help you work through those fears, address them with facts and perspective, and work through them in a positive way. Try to turn that energy into motivation!
thanks for making me feel better! the list sounds like a good idea.
today most of the fear is of the surgery itself, but usually it's the idea of failure later on. I mean I don't know how I would handle going through all this just to gain it back. I've got to stay positive and I know this. I guess just after years and years of failure it's kind of natural to still worry about it.
I'm probably going to bring this up at the support group I go to this week. Most of the people there are postop so maybe they can help out too.
today most of the fear is of the surgery itself, but usually it's the idea of failure later on. I mean I don't know how I would handle going through all this just to gain it back. I've got to stay positive and I know this. I guess just after years and years of failure it's kind of natural to still worry about it.
I'm probably going to bring this up at the support group I go to this week. Most of the people there are postop so maybe they can help out too.
I think it's normal for us to be scared. It's a life-changing decision, and it's major surgery. My surgery is in a month, and I keep wondering if this is the right thing to do because I'm worried about failing. But each day I realize I'm pretty excited about it too. I think about our family history of heart disease and diabetes, and I know this is my best chance to avoid those diseases. And then there's the little things like not fitting comfortably in the seat at the movie theater today. So, like you, yeah I'm scared but I'm excited too.
I have some of the same family issues with heart disease and diabetes...along with all my health problems. I know this is the right decision, but it's scary as heck! lol.
I know how you feel when it comes to the little things....I haven't been to the movies in 3 years. I would also love to go to a restaurant and not have to ask for a table instead of a booth.
I know how you feel when it comes to the little things....I haven't been to the movies in 3 years. I would also love to go to a restaurant and not have to ask for a table instead of a booth.
Ya, I was scared but kept in the inside the whole time during my surgery date. The nurses and docs. were joking how calm I was, but I was shaking on the inside. You are making a major lifestyle change and it will require a lot of hard work and good choices. Here is the great news, you are doing it for a better YOU. On the way to the OR they gave me a little happy juice before wheeling me out of the room. Between that time and my arrival in the OR, I thought of 100 positive things that this surgery was going to do for me. The major one being that I hopefully have extended my life for my most wonderful wife, my beautiful daughter, and my unborn son. Don't worry about being scared, but also don't let it ruin all the positive things that will come out of this. Think of those, write them down if you must, but for me so far I really enjoy having that extra zip in my step these last few weeks and seeing my wife and daughter smile because they know I am so happy.
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