Tomorrow

Yup tomorrow is the day! I am not starting for feel excited. I am excited, scared and just want it over with. I can't say it's been a long road because for me, it went by too fast. I started to questioning why I am doing this, now I think I am back on track and ready to roll. I will be at Mercy Fitzgerald Hospital in Darby

I understand what you are saying.  Tomorrow is my day as well.  I am going through all the emotions that you are feeling... Good luck tomorrow and Ill see you on the loser bench =0)

Congrats and good luck!!  Can't wait for your update!!

Best of luck to BOTH of you!  My day was only 2 weeks ago so i can vividly recall the emotions...even as I was changing in the room prior to surgery my mind was all awhirl with excitement, fear, last-second doubts and panic!  That's completely normal!

Just focus on why you decided on this course in the first place, and trust that you are strong enough to do this... because you ARE!

Good wishes!
karen

Best wishes to you both - you're going to do great!! Have someone keep us posted on how you're doing.

Kathy

I wish you both a successful surgey and speedy recovery. I have some advice not that you asked for it, but I hope it will help you in some way.

 

Here is some advice for you. I am 2 1/2 years out and like you I was never thin so this process in some ways I feel is harder because when I look in the mirror I see a stranger. Those I know who have been thin in their adult lives seem to have a easier time of it because they look in the mirror and they see the person they used to be again.

I have some advice, take it or leave it but it has helped me and I believe has helped or is helping some of the clients I work with.

1. Make a book, log journal, scrap book or whatever you want of the many things about your life you dont like now.  ie: All the reasons being fat sucks, foods that i abuse my body with, things i wish i could that i cant, what are my fears,.etc then make a long detailed list of all the things you cant wait to do once you are healthier and smaller. Everything from crossing your legs to going on a vacation...everything hold nothing back. When you have your wow moments write them down. when you accomplish something on your list? Mark it off. There is satisfaction in meeting goals, and in crossing things off a list. It is also a way to remember where you were and how far you have come. Trust me, when you are further out and the wow moments begin to be fewer and far between, you need to have something you can look back to, to remind you so you can stay motivated. It is so amazing how easy we forget " booth anxiety: LOL

 

2. blog about your experience or write a journal you will be glad you did.

3. make some promises to yourself preop and about what you will and will not do and stick to them. they will be a life raft in rough waters. I made a promise to myself that post op I would not eat sugar, try sugar, nothing not even a small peice of chocolate. I went through too much to do that to myself. I have to say at this point it is a life saver, I dont have to think about it when someone offers me cake, I just say no thank you because " i dont eat cake"  I dont rob banks and I dont eat sugar it is that simple. It is hard enough making the right decisions about food on a daily basis without sugar on the table. If I had to deal with that too I would be screwed. I also made my promise about fast food such as mcdonalds, no good ever came from me in a mickey D's drive through so it is a place I do not go now, not Burger King either.

4. I dont drink soda diet or otherwise, he told me not to and so I dont.
5. I waited 2 years before I tried any alcohol because I did not want to trade addictions, i have had some recently and I am glad I waited.
6. Be open to therapy, you made need it at some point. That is ok, this is a huge huge change.

I dont know that you will have to worry about the veggies for awhile. I dont eat that many really because I need room for the proteins etc and I was unable to tolerate salad until 3 mos or so ago anyway.
7. Your tastes will change so dont worry about missing a particular food. Cheeseburgers used to be my favorite food, and my fav abuse food. I can eat a few bites of one now and it is not satisfying at all, so now it would be the last thing I pick out in a restaurant. Your tastes do change and can change.

I say all of this not to preach and not to say my way is the only and best way. But I do know that this journey is hard and any safety nets you can put in place will be well worth the effort  in the long run.

It can be a roller coaster of emotions, just stay the course and before you know it, you'll be on your way to all the wonders of the wow's that are waiting for you both.  Wishing you both a speedy recovery, uneventful surgery and lots of wows'.

Good luck to you both. I am in the same boat as Nicole in that I have never been thin.  She has some fine words of true wisdom for you.  I re-read them every time she posts them to new folks.  They are true and worth it.  I don't journal as much as I should, but I do write stuff down and have taken measurements along the way, as well as tons of pictures!!!!

You will both be fine and be on the journey to a better you!

Darby,

I think many of us reflect on our decision prior to the actual surgery - especially in the last few hours before hand.

Remember all the knowledge you have...before your emotions got "in the way"  Why you are doing this...what made you start the research process and the insurance hoopla....

Can't wait to hear how you do!

Pam

Wishing you both the best of luck and a speedy recovery.  Take Nicole's advice. She is a great role model for all of us.

Keep us posted.  

Arlene