Really want to get this weight off...
I just want to vent. Call me a venti sf mocha with an extra shot. ; )
I haven't lost a pound since....January?? I don't even know. I am the same weight right now as I am in my ticker, but I want to get to 150. I stopped doing my calorie counter.com back then, stopped tracking my protein, started drinking daily, but kept up the exercise and vitamins. I'm so sick of the bull**** I tell myself, the bargains I make in my head to try and get whatever food or drink I'm obsessed with at the moment. I'm isolated, and in a funk.
I haven't lost a pound since....January?? I don't even know. I am the same weight right now as I am in my ticker, but I want to get to 150. I stopped doing my calorie counter.com back then, stopped tracking my protein, started drinking daily, but kept up the exercise and vitamins. I'm so sick of the bull**** I tell myself, the bargains I make in my head to try and get whatever food or drink I'm obsessed with at the moment. I'm isolated, and in a funk.
I guess the good news is that you recognize the destructive behaviors - the hard news is that now that you know what you are doing wrong - you have to make better choices. Go and pick up a new little notebook today and start your journaling again.
Empty your house of all alcohol and when you feel the urge to take a swig, reach for something else - water, crystal lite, piece of gum, something. I dont have to tell you that this journey will have twists and turns and you have come so far, but your biggest cheerleader needs to be that beautiful woman you see in the mirror.
The 170s were very very tough for me - they lasted almost 3 months then the scale moved again. I was in the low 150s prior to my plastics almost 4 weeks ago and guess what - Im right back into the high 170s again with the swelling and honestly its doing a job in my head - so I can readily identify with your depression over it.
Aside from the journal - make other changes - a drastic changes. Eat different things - but make them good choices in good timing. Make a change with your exercise too - now that the weather is good - go get yourself a bicycle and ride every night for 45 minutes.
TRUST ME ON THIS....once you start to move again your endorphines will kick back in and it will be much easier to convince your head to stay on track with the healthier choices.
PM me or call me if you need anything. I will be thinking about you.
Kim Z
Empty your house of all alcohol and when you feel the urge to take a swig, reach for something else - water, crystal lite, piece of gum, something. I dont have to tell you that this journey will have twists and turns and you have come so far, but your biggest cheerleader needs to be that beautiful woman you see in the mirror.
The 170s were very very tough for me - they lasted almost 3 months then the scale moved again. I was in the low 150s prior to my plastics almost 4 weeks ago and guess what - Im right back into the high 170s again with the swelling and honestly its doing a job in my head - so I can readily identify with your depression over it.
Aside from the journal - make other changes - a drastic changes. Eat different things - but make them good choices in good timing. Make a change with your exercise too - now that the weather is good - go get yourself a bicycle and ride every night for 45 minutes.
TRUST ME ON THIS....once you start to move again your endorphines will kick back in and it will be much easier to convince your head to stay on track with the healthier choices.
PM me or call me if you need anything. I will be thinking about you.
Kim Z
Cheryl,
OK - two things leap out at my from your posts.
1. You said you're feeling isolated. That can cause all kinds of self-referential behaviors that are not positive. Get out to a support group meeting (there's one this Saturday at Barix in Langhorne and that's not all that far... or ones in Lehigh that someone posted yesterday...) and get with supportive friends who can reinforce the positive behaviors. Avoid those folks (we all have 'em) who bring out the worst in you.
2. So this guy told you you're "too fat," eh? Too fat for what? His taste? His baggage? Here's a piece of advice I've shared with my daughters (hard to live by sometimes, though!):
Don't pick up other people's baggage from the baggage carousel!
Most of us have plenty of baggage on our own - we don't need to take on other people's too! The important thing here is that you get to where YOU feel comfortable in your own skin. If you're not, that will be apparent to others. If you ARE, then you'll rock whatever room you're in, whether you're 140 lbs or 180 lbs.
Live, Love, Enjoy!
Karen
OK - two things leap out at my from your posts.
1. You said you're feeling isolated. That can cause all kinds of self-referential behaviors that are not positive. Get out to a support group meeting (there's one this Saturday at Barix in Langhorne and that's not all that far... or ones in Lehigh that someone posted yesterday...) and get with supportive friends who can reinforce the positive behaviors. Avoid those folks (we all have 'em) who bring out the worst in you.
2. So this guy told you you're "too fat," eh? Too fat for what? His taste? His baggage? Here's a piece of advice I've shared with my daughters (hard to live by sometimes, though!):
Don't pick up other people's baggage from the baggage carousel!
Most of us have plenty of baggage on our own - we don't need to take on other people's too! The important thing here is that you get to where YOU feel comfortable in your own skin. If you're not, that will be apparent to others. If you ARE, then you'll rock whatever room you're in, whether you're 140 lbs or 180 lbs.
Live, Love, Enjoy!
Karen
seems like by venting u figured out ur own problem dont u love how that happens... get back on calorie counting.. track protein... limit certain things.. an you'll be fine.. remember eat to live not live to eat forget the obsessions an regain control you're worth it... the drinks an food arn't.. well maybe for the few mins its takes to get them down.. but after that you just judge urself an its so not worth what we put our selves through over bad choices... easier to just make better choices.. "You CAN do it!!!" <
Two words my friend:
GUYS SUCK!!!
Greg, Patrick, Norm (and others) this doesnt apply to you guys....
The other thing I want to remind you sister in WLS journey is this...
Girls RULE and Guys DROOL
There are so many many guys out there. Get this one looser right out of your head. CALL ME and lets go out one of these weekends.
Kim Z
GUYS SUCK!!!
Greg, Patrick, Norm (and others) this doesnt apply to you guys....
The other thing I want to remind you sister in WLS journey is this...
Girls RULE and Guys DROOL
There are so many many guys out there. Get this one looser right out of your head. CALL ME and lets go out one of these weekends.
Kim Z
Cheryl,
You've been given some good advice and I agree with a lot of what has been said. I've been doing a bit of dating myself lately, and I actually had a guy tell me that I was not fat enough for him. This was over email, THANK GOD I didn't meet this jackass in person!!! After I got done laughing my ass off at this assessment, I replied "Have a nice day!" (Jersey-speak for "F%$# YOU!") and deleted his email. Whether someone thinks you're too fat or not fat enough, that is not your problem, IT'S HIS. You are fabulous, and the right man will see that too!
Just my $0.02!!!
Lesley
You've been given some good advice and I agree with a lot of what has been said. I've been doing a bit of dating myself lately, and I actually had a guy tell me that I was not fat enough for him. This was over email, THANK GOD I didn't meet this jackass in person!!! After I got done laughing my ass off at this assessment, I replied "Have a nice day!" (Jersey-speak for "F%$# YOU!") and deleted his email. Whether someone thinks you're too fat or not fat enough, that is not your problem, IT'S HIS. You are fabulous, and the right man will see that too!
Just my $0.02!!!
Lesley
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