Last Supper(s)
Hi all - I'm sure some of you have gone thru this, so I'm hoping for some insight.
Why do I feel like every meal is my last? Why do I tell myself that I am going to eat up everything in the house so that I can have a fresh start, only to see something else in the grocery store that I MUST have prior to WLS??
I guess this is part of the problem that got me to the hefty weight that I am at. Out of control eating when I am bored. It's strange to me that I can go all day and sometimes all night working and not be overly concerned about eating. As soon as I get home, I feel like I just have to eat. I know that a lot of it is boredom. In my head, I tell myself that I work so hard (which I do) and that I deserve to sit around and do nothing during the few hours that I am not working or sleeping and hey - why not eat while I'm at it.
..what is wrong with me????
My fear is not being able to overcome this problem that I have. I've been reading so many discouraging stories of people who has regained after WLS - not just a little bit either. I just read on one of the boards that a person gained ALL the weight back. Is that going to be me? Am I going to be part of the small percent of people who it doesn't work for?
It's a little scary for me. I almost think that I need to go see a therapist. My life is so good right now and WLS is the icing of my cake so to speak. What the heck is my problem??? I have a great guy, a good job, I can see the light at the end of the financial troubles - why can't I overcome these bad habits so that I can be complete.
Maybe all of these ramblings are exactly why I need a tool like this to help me....ughhhh. Maybe I'm just having a bad day.
Anyhow, thanks for letting me ramble......
Lisa
Why do I feel like every meal is my last? Why do I tell myself that I am going to eat up everything in the house so that I can have a fresh start, only to see something else in the grocery store that I MUST have prior to WLS??
I guess this is part of the problem that got me to the hefty weight that I am at. Out of control eating when I am bored. It's strange to me that I can go all day and sometimes all night working and not be overly concerned about eating. As soon as I get home, I feel like I just have to eat. I know that a lot of it is boredom. In my head, I tell myself that I work so hard (which I do) and that I deserve to sit around and do nothing during the few hours that I am not working or sleeping and hey - why not eat while I'm at it.
..what is wrong with me????My fear is not being able to overcome this problem that I have. I've been reading so many discouraging stories of people who has regained after WLS - not just a little bit either. I just read on one of the boards that a person gained ALL the weight back. Is that going to be me? Am I going to be part of the small percent of people who it doesn't work for?
It's a little scary for me. I almost think that I need to go see a therapist. My life is so good right now and WLS is the icing of my cake so to speak. What the heck is my problem??? I have a great guy, a good job, I can see the light at the end of the financial troubles - why can't I overcome these bad habits so that I can be complete.
Maybe all of these ramblings are exactly why I need a tool like this to help me....ughhhh. Maybe I'm just having a bad day.
Anyhow, thanks for letting me ramble......
Lisa
TOTALLY NORMAL!!!
Sweetie what you are going through is totally normal. I remember going to a restaurant for my last meal and actually eating until I felt sick. It is not a proud moment. But you know what I realized? There is VERY little that I can't have post op that I enjoyed before you just have to learn to make it differently! THat's why I started the cooking class. I am actually sitting here eating a piece of carrot cake with cream cheese icing - sugar free and low fat! While it isn't something that I do regularly (it is leftover from Easter) treats become just that!
I realize now that I should of just had a different mind set. It isn't your last meal you are just going on another "diet" for a while. How many diets have we done? They last weeks - well the BArix program has you on full liquids for 3 weeks - 21 days - that's it! You can do it! It is just THREE WEEKS of the rest of your life! Once you get past the inital stages you can eat food - and you know what - I STILL LOVE FOOD! I just eat less of it!
I am here to help in any way that I can! You name it I will find you a healthier way to cook it so you(and more then likely your guy!) will like it too!!!
*hugs*
Liz
PS - seeing a therapist isn't a bad idea - food is an addiction afterall!
Sweetie what you are going through is totally normal. I remember going to a restaurant for my last meal and actually eating until I felt sick. It is not a proud moment. But you know what I realized? There is VERY little that I can't have post op that I enjoyed before you just have to learn to make it differently! THat's why I started the cooking class. I am actually sitting here eating a piece of carrot cake with cream cheese icing - sugar free and low fat! While it isn't something that I do regularly (it is leftover from Easter) treats become just that!
I realize now that I should of just had a different mind set. It isn't your last meal you are just going on another "diet" for a while. How many diets have we done? They last weeks - well the BArix program has you on full liquids for 3 weeks - 21 days - that's it! You can do it! It is just THREE WEEKS of the rest of your life! Once you get past the inital stages you can eat food - and you know what - I STILL LOVE FOOD! I just eat less of it!
I am here to help in any way that I can! You name it I will find you a healthier way to cook it so you(and more then likely your guy!) will like it too!!!
*hugs*
Liz
PS - seeing a therapist isn't a bad idea - food is an addiction afterall!
Hang in there Lisa...
We all have bad days... but you at least know what your issue is... and you can work on it now... but also coming here and talking will help you stay on track...
But don't treat every meal like it is your last... it isn't... between me and Liz... i am sure we have a recipe for what you love but is now WLS friendly... also your tastes and tastes buds will change... things that you once wanted sooooo badly will make you wanna barf later lol... I know after surgery for some reason those big greasy burgers they showed on tv made me want to run for the hills because of how bad they made my tummy hurt just looking at them... lol...
But the next time Liz has a cooking class... come... it is a lot of fun...
We all have bad days... but you at least know what your issue is... and you can work on it now... but also coming here and talking will help you stay on track...
But don't treat every meal like it is your last... it isn't... between me and Liz... i am sure we have a recipe for what you love but is now WLS friendly... also your tastes and tastes buds will change... things that you once wanted sooooo badly will make you wanna barf later lol... I know after surgery for some reason those big greasy burgers they showed on tv made me want to run for the hills because of how bad they made my tummy hurt just looking at them... lol...
But the next time Liz has a cooking class... come... it is a lot of fun...
Yes Lisa i just remember maybe 6 weeks ago right before surgery stuffing my face every chance i could saying omg i wont ever be able to eat this again. And you know what i regret that because i put on more weight that i now have to take off.
In the beg. i wanted my old stomach back really i did, but as the time has gone by i have seen some results i am so thankful that god has given me a second chance not just at life but to see and be around for my daughter.
Just hang tough like i was told and still do. We all have troubles i sure do lol but i know for certain that i am not going to be one of the "statistics"
In the beg. i wanted my old stomach back really i did, but as the time has gone by i have seen some results i am so thankful that god has given me a second chance not just at life but to see and be around for my daughter.
Just hang tough like i was told and still do. We all have troubles i sure do lol but i know for certain that i am not going to be one of the "statistics"
. I guess I'll be going thru this for the next 10 weeks til my WLS date comes around. 
There's never anything nasty at Liz's house.. don't scare her like that.
I went to Liz's pre-op and loved it and everyone there so much, I made a point to getting to the next one just 4 days after surgery!!! I found a ride and got there!!!
You are going through what the rest of us have all done. I don't miss the junk at all...except maybe Chinese food... but even that, I've learned to deal without at least for now until I am not scared to eat it again. You will get through this time and all the times after it. Don't feel like you will never have it again. Feel like you will never NEED it again.
Good luck and seriously think about coming to Liz's. Watch the boards for her to post the next date.
I went to Liz's pre-op and loved it and everyone there so much, I made a point to getting to the next one just 4 days after surgery!!! I found a ride and got there!!!
You are going through what the rest of us have all done. I don't miss the junk at all...except maybe Chinese food... but even that, I've learned to deal without at least for now until I am not scared to eat it again. You will get through this time and all the times after it. Don't feel like you will never have it again. Feel like you will never NEED it again.
Good luck and seriously think about coming to Liz's. Watch the boards for her to post the next date.
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I recommend therapy through this process. You really need support, reality checks, and someone to help you deal with the vast changes that you will be going through.
We all did the last meal syndrome. It isn't. You will be able to eat most things when you are further out, then you will have to decide what to eat and what not to. There is nothing I cant eat now that i ate before. Except Sugar and soda which i made the choice not to eat at all.
it isnt about the food, put your energy towards learning why the food became a coping mechanism and a weapon. This is where your energy is best focused. I recommend the Beck Diet Solution Book. She really helps you figure out your triggers and the negative thoughts that underly your behaviors.
Remember most things begin with THOUGHT, FEELING, then BEHAVIOR. So if we can get in touch with the thoughts in our head surrounding food then we can learn to talk back to them and be more in control and less bothered. It is a process one I am still entrenched in at 2 1/2 years out. But really what is the alternative?
What you feel is normal, It will be alright.
We all did the last meal syndrome. It isn't. You will be able to eat most things when you are further out, then you will have to decide what to eat and what not to. There is nothing I cant eat now that i ate before. Except Sugar and soda which i made the choice not to eat at all.
it isnt about the food, put your energy towards learning why the food became a coping mechanism and a weapon. This is where your energy is best focused. I recommend the Beck Diet Solution Book. She really helps you figure out your triggers and the negative thoughts that underly your behaviors.
Remember most things begin with THOUGHT, FEELING, then BEHAVIOR. So if we can get in touch with the thoughts in our head surrounding food then we can learn to talk back to them and be more in control and less bothered. It is a process one I am still entrenched in at 2 1/2 years out. But really what is the alternative?
What you feel is normal, It will be alright.
I think many of us have done the last supper(s) thing. It's not good nor is it healthy nor does it help the emotional battle in your head. But we do it anyway.
"Am I going to be part of the small percent of people who it doesn't work for?" I don't believe in that statement. In just about every single case with very very VERY rare exceptions, the surgery works, people don't. Your tool will work if you work the tool. I didn't read all the responses...but talk to Norm...he gained a good bit of weight back at one point - and then lost it again when he got his mind back in the right spot.
You will hear it over and over again - they operate on your stomach, not your mind. The mind portion of this "game" is the hardest and the lifelong battle.
Do we all make "mistakes" even after surgery? Absolutely. Contless numbers of us still eat to fast, eat the wrong things, don't exercise...all sorts of thing. Generally speaking, these are all temporary slip ups and we get back on track. And no matter how far out you get and how much you have gotten off track, you can always get back there.
Try starting to get the negative feelings out of your head. They will only screw with you even more.
And take LIz's cooking support group as example - you WILL be able to eat foods you love again - just better for you!
Pam
"Am I going to be part of the small percent of people who it doesn't work for?" I don't believe in that statement. In just about every single case with very very VERY rare exceptions, the surgery works, people don't. Your tool will work if you work the tool. I didn't read all the responses...but talk to Norm...he gained a good bit of weight back at one point - and then lost it again when he got his mind back in the right spot.
You will hear it over and over again - they operate on your stomach, not your mind. The mind portion of this "game" is the hardest and the lifelong battle.
Do we all make "mistakes" even after surgery? Absolutely. Contless numbers of us still eat to fast, eat the wrong things, don't exercise...all sorts of thing. Generally speaking, these are all temporary slip ups and we get back on track. And no matter how far out you get and how much you have gotten off track, you can always get back there.
Try starting to get the negative feelings out of your head. They will only screw with you even more.
And take LIz's cooking support group as example - you WILL be able to eat foods you love again - just better for you!
Pam
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses. 
Lisa- with my liquid diet starting in 1 week, I am going through the EXACT same thing. I keep feeling like I need to order all the unhealthy foods at restaurants now b/c there won't be a place for them in my life later. I drank a milkshake yesterday just to have it. YIKES!!
I feel my big change will come when liquid diet starts.
Its really helpful to hear that most people can eat a lot of the same things later, just healthier versions. I need to start working on my cooking skills!! I am such an on the go eater and eat out so much and I know I won't be doing that after surgery.
I have 2 weeks liquid diet and then 6 weeks pureed foods after the surgery. after that I have 4 weeks of soft foods. I am actually now less scared and more looking forward to it.
I just have to control my urges to eat anything I've ever liked and do the last supper thing.....
I feel my big change will come when liquid diet starts.
Its really helpful to hear that most people can eat a lot of the same things later, just healthier versions. I need to start working on my cooking skills!! I am such an on the go eater and eat out so much and I know I won't be doing that after surgery.
I have 2 weeks liquid diet and then 6 weeks pureed foods after the surgery. after that I have 4 weeks of soft foods. I am actually now less scared and more looking forward to it.
I just have to control my urges to eat anything I've ever liked and do the last supper thing.....
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