"You gaining weight, Kid?"
I am gonna get such a whupping for this one so here it goes....I do not give anyone the power to knock me down anymore. I am an adult and my not so wonderful mom used to be such a ***** about my weight and now I can finally say to myself Linda she can't hurt you anymore you are not a child anymore. I would have said to my dad wow what a shame you can only criticise me and not acknowledge what I have accomplished it must suck to be you (meaning your dad) it takes much more energy to be nasty you must be tired all of the time. Good for you to put him in his place. Keep up the good work! Bravo.
no whuppin here!
considering my dad has 4 heart attacks, 1 angeoplasty (sp"), and a triple open heart bypass surgery...oh- and corided artery surgery....+ diabetes...and doesnt exercise a DAY in his life- he has no room to talk.
he was VERY supportive of me through the surgery and staged after, and i know he's just worried...but had NO right to say it that way. he should know better....
...im still pissed at him!
considering my dad has 4 heart attacks, 1 angeoplasty (sp"), and a triple open heart bypass surgery...oh- and corided artery surgery....+ diabetes...and doesnt exercise a DAY in his life- he has no room to talk.
he was VERY supportive of me through the surgery and staged after, and i know he's just worried...but had NO right to say it that way. he should know better....
...im still pissed at him!
~ Jen 
Some people should be told their place and your father is no different. I would tell him how I felt. No punches pulled. He didn't worry about your feelings well ditto for him! You are giving him that power and you need to consider the sourse from where it comes from wow he sound like the picture of good health (not). Do as I say not as I do? I don't think so.
Here's the email I sent:
So the answer you might have been looking for is yes- I am gaining weight. I couldnt and didnt want to discuss it with Bella being there..or with the fact i was on the verge of tears. Let me remind you of what's been happening with me: After my surgery i went in psychotic exercise mode losing an abmormally rapid amount of weight. obvioulsy, my body was in complete shock and soon tried to level itself out some. i WAS too thin...though, no- you didnt tell me that. Then, through a year of therapy- i discovered i had been trying to battle depression on my own since i'd say around high school....somehow, that was never picked up on. So- i started antidepressants and continued to work on the various issues from my childhood that became apparent....this mostly connecting with my enormous lack of self esteem....stemming from childhood as well. So in that 1st year, I was exercising to replace a food addiction. When i became clinlically depressed, this became difficult to do. I then began resorting to alcohol to transfer addictions. Then i discoved my iron is low and im borderline anemic. thinking that could be a reason for fatigue, i thought that i could get that straightened out....but last week my labs came back that my calcium is deficient and my parathyroid hormone is off. so this morning, i spent hours scheduling appointments with 3 doctors and am trying to keep it all together and under control mentally...becuase this wass one of my greatest concerns pre-surgery. i am SLAPPED in the face by the scale every morning and trying my best everyday to figure this out. therefore, i dont need you bringing it to my attention when i've already brought it there. you have no idea how diffucult my life has been over the past year and how mentally challenging this is. i know you will say you only said it cuz you care and you dont want to see me ruin everyhthing i worked do hard for......but i dont see you working your hardest since they opened you up either. ..and i sure as hell dont throw it in your face. so do me a favor- put on some blinders and stop looking at my body and give the time to figure this out on my own. i'm already working on it and dont need those kind of comments to scew with my head, when its already screwed up enough. i love you Jen
So the answer you might have been looking for is yes- I am gaining weight. I couldnt and didnt want to discuss it with Bella being there..or with the fact i was on the verge of tears. Let me remind you of what's been happening with me: After my surgery i went in psychotic exercise mode losing an abmormally rapid amount of weight. obvioulsy, my body was in complete shock and soon tried to level itself out some. i WAS too thin...though, no- you didnt tell me that. Then, through a year of therapy- i discovered i had been trying to battle depression on my own since i'd say around high school....somehow, that was never picked up on. So- i started antidepressants and continued to work on the various issues from my childhood that became apparent....this mostly connecting with my enormous lack of self esteem....stemming from childhood as well. So in that 1st year, I was exercising to replace a food addiction. When i became clinlically depressed, this became difficult to do. I then began resorting to alcohol to transfer addictions. Then i discoved my iron is low and im borderline anemic. thinking that could be a reason for fatigue, i thought that i could get that straightened out....but last week my labs came back that my calcium is deficient and my parathyroid hormone is off. so this morning, i spent hours scheduling appointments with 3 doctors and am trying to keep it all together and under control mentally...becuase this wass one of my greatest concerns pre-surgery. i am SLAPPED in the face by the scale every morning and trying my best everyday to figure this out. therefore, i dont need you bringing it to my attention when i've already brought it there. you have no idea how diffucult my life has been over the past year and how mentally challenging this is. i know you will say you only said it cuz you care and you dont want to see me ruin everyhthing i worked do hard for......but i dont see you working your hardest since they opened you up either. ..and i sure as hell dont throw it in your face. so do me a favor- put on some blinders and stop looking at my body and give the time to figure this out on my own. i'm already working on it and dont need those kind of comments to scew with my head, when its already screwed up enough. i love you Jen
~ Jen
What is the name of it ? I was talking to my doctor...(been getting a little depressed because of my weight gain. He said that the meds Paxil has a nick name...."pack it on paxil" ...that's what he said to me. I'm hoping that getting back on the exercise track and getting rid of some of these extra pounds will help. If I have to I will go the meds route
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