being a little sad after sugery is normal, right?
I just got home from Barix yesterday - and although I know that I did the right thing, I am still feeling a little sad - I have heard people say that it is a little like losing a good friend. I am off from work for all of next week and am not sure how to fill my days. Any thoughts and suggestions will be helpful! thanks!
Welcome home! It is normal - you are going to run the gamut of emotions over th enext few months. These first few weeks on full liquids are the hardest. I would do things that you love! Right now you are going to find that you are going to need to rest quite often. Make sure you are getting your walks in and get as much liquid as you can (close to you goal) protein will come later.
Walking around malls is helpful since it is inside, gives you things to look at and there are usually seats if you need to rest.
Oh and there is always comeing on here and talking to your new OH friends! lol
Liz
Walking around malls is helpful since it is inside, gives you things to look at and there are usually seats if you need to rest.
Oh and there is always comeing on here and talking to your new OH friends! lol
Liz
Steffi,
It is what is called "buyers remorse", the feelings of oh, my what did I do? Many people have it and yes, this is an emotional time, not to mention that losing weight actually releases hormones that the fat stores, so be easy on yourself and just let yourself feel your feelings right now.
As for what to do with your time, well, depending on how you feel, I'd say walking is a good thing, reading a good book you haven't had time for, or rent some movies that you never got to see and doze off to them ;) If you haven't done so already, create your profile page on here, start a blog of what you are going through, so that you can look back and remember things. If you don't think it will bother you, start looking up good ideas on how to get through this early stage of post-WLS foodwise and there is always coming to the boards and keeping up on here and so on.
Congratulations and best wishes on your joining the Loser's Bench, this journey is amazing, make sure to take your measurements, because you will be amazed each month as you see the results, sometimes they move when the scale does not.
Positive healing vibes coming at you, Laureen
It is what is called "buyers remorse", the feelings of oh, my what did I do? Many people have it and yes, this is an emotional time, not to mention that losing weight actually releases hormones that the fat stores, so be easy on yourself and just let yourself feel your feelings right now.
As for what to do with your time, well, depending on how you feel, I'd say walking is a good thing, reading a good book you haven't had time for, or rent some movies that you never got to see and doze off to them ;) If you haven't done so already, create your profile page on here, start a blog of what you are going through, so that you can look back and remember things. If you don't think it will bother you, start looking up good ideas on how to get through this early stage of post-WLS foodwise and there is always coming to the boards and keeping up on here and so on.
Congratulations and best wishes on your joining the Loser's Bench, this journey is amazing, make sure to take your measurements, because you will be amazed each month as you see the results, sometimes they move when the scale does not.
Positive healing vibes coming at you, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Don't be sad and don't worry about it too much - give yourself a couple of days to adjust to your new body and your new life/lifestyle - and the anesthesia will mess with your emotions, too - I think my RNY surgery was the first time I didn't wake up from anesthesia crying!
We are all here for you so if you feel yourself getting down come on out here and read some of the whacky posts or just let us know how you're feeling - get it off your chest and you will feel better. Make sure you keep moving and sipping - all those things will get that anesthesia and gas out of your system and you'll be feeling better in no time.
And let's face it - its rainy April - after this miserable winter we've had it would be nice to see a few days of sunshine and warmth - that would cheer us all up!!
Kathy
We are all here for you so if you feel yourself getting down come on out here and read some of the whacky posts or just let us know how you're feeling - get it off your chest and you will feel better. Make sure you keep moving and sipping - all those things will get that anesthesia and gas out of your system and you'll be feeling better in no time.
And let's face it - its rainy April - after this miserable winter we've had it would be nice to see a few days of sunshine and warmth - that would cheer us all up!!
Kathy
'One shoe can change your life'...Cinderella
I just came home yesterday myself from gastric bypass surgery in Tuesday, 3/31. I'm all over the place - tired from the hospital routine but had trouble falling alseep last night, felt like a truck had hit when I did get up this morning, anxious to get started with my new "lifestyle", wanting to get back into a "normal" routine around the house with my wife and kids........I suppose the best thing to do is just literally take it one day at a time for now.
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on 4/3/09 2:30 am - PA
on 4/3/09 2:30 am - PA
Hi Steffi,
You're getting a lot of good advice from our friends here. Absolutely, I think it is normal to be a little sad and mixed up after surgery. I'm coming up on my three month anniversary on April 9th -- and I can say I remember those first days at home were not a lot of fun. As others have mentioned, I experienced a bit of "buyer's remorse." I distinctly remembering thinking to myself during my second day at home -- "What have I done? What was I thinking? I feel horrible! I bloated with gas and in pain -- I can barely drink anything! I don't dare tell my spouse how I am feeling because she'll freak out b/c she is so worried about me. I'm all alone on this -- and I created this problem all myself! I'm screwed. I was so stupid, why couldn't I just lose the weight without surgery? Surely I could have figured something out -- anything except this -- now -- this post-op situation is horrible." I think I experienced a panic attack that day -- and it wasn't pretty.
BUT, it passed. Once I reminded myself why I had pursued this surgery, to improve my health and to avoid the long-term problems of obesity, I reassured myself that my choice had been the best I could make given the cir****tances.
AND, everyday that passes you will feel better. You'll be walking more, returning to life as normal, and getting back into your old routines (and making some good new ones). AND, you'll be losing weight, your clothes will fit better and then they'll be too large before you know it. And then you'll get excited about your progress and some light shopping for new clothes isn't bad either. :-) Of course, they'll be hickups (literally) along the way -- but you'll figure what works and what doesn't. AND, you'll finally be free of this beast we are fighting -- our weight issue. Your body will be working with you and giving you lots of feedback and it will reward you with lost weight when you comply with its new demands.
To borrow a line from Dr. Seuss, "Oh the places you will go!" Your new life is here. It is all unfolding now. Give yourself a pat on the back for your courage and your good efforts. AND, be patient with and kind to yourself. You deserve it!
Sending you many warm wishes!
-r
You're getting a lot of good advice from our friends here. Absolutely, I think it is normal to be a little sad and mixed up after surgery. I'm coming up on my three month anniversary on April 9th -- and I can say I remember those first days at home were not a lot of fun. As others have mentioned, I experienced a bit of "buyer's remorse." I distinctly remembering thinking to myself during my second day at home -- "What have I done? What was I thinking? I feel horrible! I bloated with gas and in pain -- I can barely drink anything! I don't dare tell my spouse how I am feeling because she'll freak out b/c she is so worried about me. I'm all alone on this -- and I created this problem all myself! I'm screwed. I was so stupid, why couldn't I just lose the weight without surgery? Surely I could have figured something out -- anything except this -- now -- this post-op situation is horrible." I think I experienced a panic attack that day -- and it wasn't pretty.
BUT, it passed. Once I reminded myself why I had pursued this surgery, to improve my health and to avoid the long-term problems of obesity, I reassured myself that my choice had been the best I could make given the cir****tances.
AND, everyday that passes you will feel better. You'll be walking more, returning to life as normal, and getting back into your old routines (and making some good new ones). AND, you'll be losing weight, your clothes will fit better and then they'll be too large before you know it. And then you'll get excited about your progress and some light shopping for new clothes isn't bad either. :-) Of course, they'll be hickups (literally) along the way -- but you'll figure what works and what doesn't. AND, you'll finally be free of this beast we are fighting -- our weight issue. Your body will be working with you and giving you lots of feedback and it will reward you with lost weight when you comply with its new demands.
To borrow a line from Dr. Seuss, "Oh the places you will go!" Your new life is here. It is all unfolding now. Give yourself a pat on the back for your courage and your good efforts. AND, be patient with and kind to yourself. You deserve it!
Sending you many warm wishes!
-r
Thank you all! I have had a relatively productive day - I did a lot of walking - tooka nap and drank as much as I could - (Not all that I should have - but there is still time in the day!) I am looking forward to going to the support group meething at Barix is Langhorne tomorrow and will continue to look here for continued support! I just need to keep remindingmy slef that this is a journey - and no journey is a complete smooth ride! Thank you all again! :)
Sorry I'm so late on responding!
Glad to hear the next day was a bit better. And it will continue to be so. You will have days where it's not "better" but you'll get through them, too!
As far as your days are concerned - sipping and walking you will find will end up taking most of your time! It's a full time job in and of itself. When you do go back to work - especially if you have a desk job - please make sure you get up and walk around every few hours for a few minutes then, too.
I like all the suggestions you have gotten and won't bore you with repetitions. Having the excuse to watch movies and what not that you haven't in awhile is always a good thing :)
Let us know if you need anything!
Pam
Glad to hear the next day was a bit better. And it will continue to be so. You will have days where it's not "better" but you'll get through them, too!
As far as your days are concerned - sipping and walking you will find will end up taking most of your time! It's a full time job in and of itself. When you do go back to work - especially if you have a desk job - please make sure you get up and walk around every few hours for a few minutes then, too.
I like all the suggestions you have gotten and won't bore you with repetitions. Having the excuse to watch movies and what not that you haven't in awhile is always a good thing :)
Let us know if you need anything!
Pam
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses. 
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