Word to the wise

Sadly, most of us do stop 'dating' when we get married and settled - I know my husband and I have, and we just had this discussion the other night. This year will be our 20th anniversary and we vowed to each other to have more 'date' nights - especially since my mother lives with us and we don't get much time alone.

So very good words of wisdom - and even tho I know I"ll have to do 99% of the planning its worth it in the long run.

I SO agree 

So if I am single can I date married men?????

Just kidding I know what you mean exactly! 

Hubby and I just recently re instated "date nights" where we try to do something once a week that is uninterrupted "us" time.  Most times we are both pretty invovled online in something or another and never really just be with "us"  We've been married just under 3 years, but have been a couple for 8 years and some of that "magic" had already been lost - without even having kids or what not.  And we wanted to "nip it in the bud" if you will.

It IS very important.

Pam

my husband and I date, we really enjoy each others company. adn our friends to.

I tell my daughter, they had a baby 7 months ago and I tell her how important it is for her & her husband to still go out on dates and of course I will babysit.
Susan

Wow, this post is so timely for me.  My husband and I just had this conversation about a week ago.  Of course, when I brought it up he just rolled his eyes.  But too bad....after 37 years of marriage the man can take his wife out on a friggin' date, right!!!

So, our first date is Valentine's Day.  We are going to a very nice restaurant for (hopefully) a very nice dinner.  Of course, I had to plan it, make the reservation, etc. but it's a start!

All I was saying is that once you are married dosen't mean you don't make time for the two of you because even when you have the responibilities and then come your children you both need time to yourselves. Take one night a week even if its movies and popcorn or find a coupon where buy one entree get one free or you know what I mean. Because before you know it you have forgotten to catch up with each other's lives and then the children are grown and gone and then what do you have left. And don't forget to ask each other how the other person's day was and how they are feeling.

Boy do I understand this thread. We have been together for 12 years and married for 9. And there are two things we "fight" about. One of them is us not spending time together and "dating". He is completely oblivious, I have to tell him when he should compliment me or otherwise he never would. But I knew that when I married him, and I accept that I have to prompt all of those type of interactions. I know he loves me but it would be nice if he could be spontaneous once in awhile. Anyhow I agree you get so into a rut of he does his thing and you do yours that it just stays that way. It takes effort to keep things good between you. Amen.

Chris and I don't necessarily go out for a date night, as I am a home-body. It's the place I LOVE to be! But we have "us" time. Weekends are our time. Wether it is laying in bed in the morning talking, playing a game, working on a project or snuggling on the couch. It is time that we both cherish even more now that he works second shift.

Good thread Linda!