Oh that's right...they don't know!

So two nights ago at work we were sitting there talking...one of the girls is getting married and she was showing us (online) her engagement pics...which are just gorgeous...so that led to talking about weddings...and different styles...and I mentioned the kilt Brian wore to "the wedding" (that's just how I happened to word it...)

So the one woman says...oooh, do you have a picture?  I'd love to see the kilt!  So I go online...bring up the wedding photos...a close up of me and Brian where you can see full figure of both of us...and then....

The one woman looked puzzled.  So I said "what's the matter?" and she goes "Well when you said 'Brian wore a kilt to the wedding' I just assumed you meant your wedding to him.  I didn't expect you to have pictures of him from a previous marriage"  So I look at her and go "what are you talking about?"

"Well...that girl....it's not you...."

Oh crap....how did I forget that I didn't tell them about my surgery (you don't exactly start working in a place and go "Hi my name is pam, I'm a nurse, and I had gastric bypass" ya know...) and they don't know what I looked like over a hundred pounds ago...

So then proceeded the very brief answer from me....saying...yes...it's me...and I struggled with my weight for most of my life and have gotten in under control since that photo was taken.

I chose to say nothing more at this time....not because I'm embarrassed by it...but because I'm sooo used to everyone dissecting what I eat and my patterns and what not...that I am enjoying just "being" in this group and looked at for who I am...not what I have done.

Does this make any sense?

This post wasn't initially one to make me (or you think) but it turned out to that.  Sorry!

Pam

hehehe I liked how you handled it... some nurses are so picky when it comes to other nurses etc... but very cool how you did it...

I think it's amazing that you have obviously been integrating your "new" you into your self image.   And how you handle it and share it is your business.  And want to be looked at for "you" totally makes sense.  How people interpret and/or perceive things can really be cumbersome.  I applaud how you handled it.

Keri

I think you handled it perfect....sometimes our surgery becomes a fascination to people so till you are ready they do not need know. It is part of you not who you this surgery.

It made sense to me!

Hey Pam - I think you handled it very well.  What you tell others is your business and not everyone needs to know everything, especially if you feel like you would be dissected.

Absolutely!

Jennifer*

And kind of a WOW moment :)

Jennifer*

Pam,
I think that was a great way to handle it.  Make them all wonder how you were so successful!!

Michelle

I hear you sister!
-GD

I understand completely, and I currently and working in a job that everyone around me has only seen me 25# heavier.  Its hard to get used to being around people who never saw you at your top weight or even realize what you did to get to this point.   I constantly have to remind myself that "OOOH, they don't know".  Even know the journey didn't happen overnight, it seems like a woke up in this new body one day and I am in disguise.  Weird feeling.