"Honey are you picking up weight?"

How insensitive....but unfortunately, this is the real world and sometimes we have to deal with insensitivity.   I definitely agree that all the layers of clothing played a large part in her comment....2 or 3 lbs is not going to show.  But as Dennis said, use whatever you need to get yourself back on track.  I'm guilty of the snacking and skipping the gym, too.  It's so damn hard to get back to that routine we all had right after surgery.