UPDATE

Thank you so much Geri.  I haven't read your post yet, but yes, advice is always easier to give than to apply to ourselves.  Despite all of the sad and disappointing news you are right in that Adam is definitely a wonderful change in my life right now and he has been a terrific support through all of this.  Thank you so much for your faith in me and for your advice.  I really appreciate all of your support. 

Love,
Lisa :)