My Vent for the Day!

Hi all,

I just had to vent because I'm having a crappy day in general and this little thing just bugs me.  I have a Co-worker who is about 6'1, Blonde, very nice looking lady, dressed to the hilt, etc, etc

Well we are Executive Assistants to VP's and talk all the time, so I have been keeping her up to date on my progress with getting the RNY.  She doesnt think I need it...blah blah and keeps trying to get me to go to Weigh****chers.  She is always talking about it and how she needs to lose 20 pounds, etc etc.  I try to explain to her that I have done that and I need to lose 120 pounds and I just cant go to WW to do it.  So, now she has gone around to several people in our Dept and is recruiting them to her Sat WW meetings.  And she is very verbal about it, and talks about how they are a nice little clic now at WW and I sit here feeling like an idiot.   None of these people are obese like me, and hey if that works for them great, but she is constantly throwing that in my face.  Everyday its..."are you sure dont want to come our meeting Sat, that would be so much easier"  Its stupid but it bugs me, especially now that she 3 other people going and they all talk about it.  UGH

Well thanks for "listening" I just needed to say that!  Have a good day everyone!

So go ask her to pick up 24 bags of flour, carry them around with her, and ask her to just get rid of them at weigh****chers.  If she says the "easy" comment again - tell her you are not looking for the easy fix - you are looking to change your lifestyle and routine completely to live a healthier life without yo yoing constantly on various diets and chain style "cookie cutter" programs if you will.

Vent away!

Pam

Margo,

There is always someone who thinks that their way is "the way", you did your homework, including probably most diets known to mankind, so try to ignore her childish behavior, you don't need to be a part of her "click"!

Hope you feel better now that you vented. . .

Hugs, Laureen

If I had a dime for every person who told my I'm not "fat enough for that surgery" I'd be a wealthy woman.



I feel like saying to them, what exactly IS fat enough? I think 264 is it for me, thank you very much skinny know it alls.



I say go to their weigh****chers meetings and bring snacks with you to eat while they talk about their points.

OMG - that snack comment had me spew my water all over my computer.  Tooooo tooooo funny!

oh I hear ya!  You cant tell me, people that these 3 fat rolls in my back is not proof enough!  lol

And oh how I would love to go into that meeting and eat some twinkies, after 100 pounds!  haha

That is too funny!

Marlo,

Why not bring her to one of our meetings? Maybe that would help her - but probably not - some people just don't get it. Shame on them. Tammy

Marlo - Tell her about your "click" us WLS Oh'ers are the bes click of all!! Some people just don't get it and never will.

My dad always told me to tell them that I can loose weight but they won't loose their ignorance.

Keep your head high - you are doing the right thing and are going to blow them all out of the water with you successing!

 

Liz

I was blessed with good friends who didn't give me a lot of unsolicited advice.  I did, however, try two trips to an outpatient eating disorder clinic, with extended therapy, and many trips to nutritionists to manage my eating disordered behaviors.  So, I did have to tell one person that I sought medical advice, and psychiatrists and decided that this surgery was my best course of action at this point in my life.  Tell your friend that when she has an M.D. after her name, or is a Certified Nutritionist, you will be happy to take her diet advice, until then, you are going with YOUR medical experts. 

Vent away. 

Huggles,
Trish

Marlo,

I can comiserate with you! I have one friend, who is maybe 20lbs overweight and is begging me to join WW with her and also Curves, and that I'm "taking the easy way out"! ARRRR!

I try to explain to her about the many changes that come with WLS, and how it will NOT be easy. She continues to badger me about 'doing it the healthy way' and not 'using surgery as a cop-out'. She says all I need to do is change my eating (duh) and exercise (duh).

What this person fails to understand is that at 347 lbs I can't do Curves, I can just barely walk around my own house...that every joint and my back screams with pain everyday. That its an exhausting job just to take a shower and get dressed to go out of the house. And of course I've been on most every diet out there.

I get tired of explaining it to her. When she starts talking about weight I try and change the subject or I just come out and say it's PERSONAL, and that I don't want to talk about it. That has worked so far.