Don't Quite Know How to Handle this One....advice, please

Upon further review.... flip a coin

LOL  To funny Andy **HI JACKED MESSAGE** How'd the interview go? Pam

Thanks everyone.  I knew it was a difficult question to answer, and judging by the responses here, there is no real clear cut answer.  I really appreciate your showing both sides.   I really, really want to approach her.  I so want her to come to support, register with OH, come to the next Pilgrimage, etc.  I'm not sure she even knows about all the support that's available to her and how wonderful a group of people you all are, and how much she is missing by not getting involved.  I haven't made a decision either way yet, but for now I'm just going to see where time will take us.  I really like the suggestion to drop little hints about attending a support group meeting, etc.  I think I will go ahead and take that suggestion and hope that she brings it up. Again, thanks everyone for your responses.  It always help.

Eileen, I agree that you shouldn't say anything due to the fact that she may not have had the surgery yet and may be doing the 6 month diet before surgery. She may not have told you yet because maybe she's afraid the surgery may not happen. She may be planning to tell you after the surgery or if and when it is confirmed. Besides, we all need our little secrets and maybe this is hers. If she wants to I'm sure she will go to you first because she may have questions and someone to talk to about it.  Lotsa hugs Peg

Have you thought about casually mentioning to her or in front of her that you are going to the Post op meeting the 3rd Wednesday of each month at Barix.  If she still says nothing, let it go. 

If she wanted you to know, she would tell you.  I think that you should respect her privacy.