I need some help!!

Hi Ladies and Gents!! I need some help. It seems that more and more often when I eat around someone or go out to eat, some one always ends up trying to force food down me. I know they are thinking that no one her size only eats that little bit. Except for telling them about my surgery, which I don't want to, how can I handle it? Also, what about people who also don't know about the surgery and are nosey about how you lost the weight. I have a vendor who comes into work and he noticed and got real nosey about how I lost it and how much I have lost. Thank goodness I had a phone call to steer him away. I don't want to be a *itch, and rude! I want to just try and be as vague as possible since I don't want to out and out lie!! Thanks for listening!!! Sarah

I just tell people that I am the one who has to deal with it and not them and that I will be eating somewhat "normally" in about a year. This is a change that I must make. As for the what are you doing question; I always just told the truth and that it has been working wonderfully for me and I am healthier and better off than I was before the surgery. Good Luck; you will get used to all this soon enough.

HI Chris!! I want to say you look great in your new profile picture!! Thank you for your ideas. I know I am also in a "mood". I know there are lots of other people who are going through what I am too and that makes it easier!! I hope to see you soon! Sarah

Hi sarah, I understand that you don't feel the need to explain to everyone that you had WLS.. and that is completly your choice.. and I totaly respect that. but for me I only kept it a secret before surgery and then after I told everyone. I have told complete strangers and first dates.. I also carry my before pic with me. I think I eat pretty normal now at 14 1/2 months out. (at least normal as in what I see *skinny* females eating) which to me seem's to be the amount a five year old eats. and as for people thinking you should be eating more at your size? ya know they might not be thinking that at all.. infact our whole lives are revolved around food and they just might be thinking they want you to enjoy as much as they are... "or" if it is someone who knows you had surgery they could be secretly or even unconsioulsy trying to sabatoge your efforts.. either way don't be affraid to be assertive and tell them flat out NO THANK YOU!!! I was the "*****".. always and forever.. I told everyone so when people tried to feed me (and they did) I would just tell them OK but I will PUKE all over you if I do.. and that put an end to it.. for the nosy people, since you don't want to lie just tell them the "truth".. that you are on a low calorie/low carb diet... and that you are very dedicated in order to save your life!! hope you can make it to the next get together.. cant wait to see ya Theresa

Hey Missy! Thank you for the advice. I was hoping you would reply. It seems like things are getting a little stressful now. I am very grateful for the surgery and I dont want to seem like I'm not by trying to "hide" it. I just want to sometimes to be left alone!! I am also in a blue mood right now so that is not helping!!! I hope to see you all soon again!! Sarah