Surgery date changed

I got a call today from the surgeon's office in S. California. He decided that he didn't want to do any other surgery on the day that he does mine. He said that because of my past medical history of colostomy and adhesions he wanted to schedule more time for my surgery. He said he is 98% sure that surgery will be successful but if he finds that I don't have enough bowel or too many adhesions then he will not do the RNY. I was upset about the change at first but considering it longer I am happy that he is being so careful. I am scheduled for 11/20/03 and my husband scheduled for 12/9/03.

You are so right to be glad he is being so careful. That is very comforting! I know it is disappointing to have things shuffled around but it also shows you are in very good hands... Hurray for that!!! Besides it is better to have them a bit apart so you can help each other more.. you will be on the mend and able to help him a little when his turn comes.

kathy, Sorry for the change but as always its for the best... also I was wondering do you have crohns disease? my 19 yr old son was dx with crohns when he was 13. he has had years of steroids then the remicade and then at 17 surgery.... he is suffering again and since he is over 18 refuses to go to the doctor. I had a LONG talk with him the other night (both of us in tears) about what is going to happen if he doesn't go to the doctor and ignores what is going on until it's too late. I can't get it through his dam head. I honestly think he would rather die than to have another colonoscopy (big freaken deal with that right??) he is just being a real hard head and I am at a loss. do you have any insight? personal experince?? anything? congrats on the upcoming surg. and your dr. sounds wise. Theresa d lap rny 4/16/03 256/166/135

Hi Theresa, My sister has crohns disease. She is the same way....she won't go to the Dr. until she is on death's door step. I think it is very typical for crohns patients. They don't like to talk about it and would rather pretend that is just doesn't exist. All you can do is be there for him. It is so hard to watch them go through the agony. Going to the Dr. is so important....but it is really hard to get them there.