RE: How to tell my father

I just wanted to give a big thanks to everyone who gave me advise on how to tell my father about my surgery. Just to let everyone know Im still undecided how to do this but I have had a letter I wrote him that I thought I would email him the day I leave for surgery. In that letter I wrote why I was writing and not telling him in person hoping that he will think about his actions before he tries to contact me after surgery. My mother know but they have been divorced for sometime and she beleaves he doesnt desierve to know at all. I am still a bit confused but I guess I would have to think of it as if it was my daughter going into surgery. I know he does want the best for me and I feel this is the best for me. Kat

Good for you. I didn't have any issues because my mom had died earlier last year before surgery. She was very much opposed to it so I respected her wishes (she was terminally ill for two years so I was too busy taking care of her to even think about me and I never wanted surgery in the first place -- I only had it because my husband's insurance agreed to pay for lap band). Good luck! Lori

Good Luck telling your father! But I don't understand why it is so hard to tell them your having this surgery. You would think they would be happy you are doing it. Then on the other hand. Why does it matter what they say you are the one that is going through YOUR life with these medical problems they aren't. Also it's your life that has to listen to everyone put you down and upset you about your weight. They for sure don't have to listen to it. So why can't you do this surgery for yourself? I sure hope that you are doing this for YOU. Cause if you are then you should do just fine. If you are doing it because someone has told you to you will not succeed. You have to want this surgery for YOU. Be selfish for once. I hope this helped Lori M