is this normal? Preop.

is it normal to be so sure you want surgery and to change your life but then second guess it because you won't be able to eat certain things? clearly it's not worth my health I know that. but lately I've been second guessing because I won't be able to eat foods I love? please say this is normal to go through. 

I hate to tell you this, but it's completely normal!  This surgery is a big change in your life.  And even though you read everything talk to people, etc.  You are never 100% prepared for what comes next.  Partially because it's different for each of us.  And with every big change, it can be scary.  And once the surgery becomes more of a reality, the more the fear becomes a reality.

Whether it's worrying about being able to do this, how things will change or not eating certain foods again, it's all the same issue.

As for the foods, depending on what you are thinking, you may still be able to have a small amount, or a modified version of the food.  You will have to watch to make sure you stay away from trigger foods that lead you to other poor choices.

You'll be fine through this journey.  First, you have a great team at the WLC, and second you are not alone.  You have lots of support as you go.

Cathy

Yes its totally normal to have those thoughts ......but I found as an obese person, life usually revolved around food.  Food is the answer, the reason and the motivation.  Food was my everything and the ONLY thing I had left that I truly enjoyed. (so I thought)

I learned to LOVE other things more than food as I travelled  through this process.  There is a whole world out there waiting for you to discover and embrace.  I still know that I used to love cheesecake and pizza.  I know sometimes I see them and want them.  I also know I can have a taste.....but more than that and I will feel guilty and likely very crappy -- not physically but mentally.  Surgery wont prevent you from eating bad things, only you do.

However what I LOVE now is buying clothes, passing by mirrors and not hiding away in my house.  Food and eating has become more...something I have to do....... instead of all I want to do. 

Try making a list of surgery pros and cons or surgery rewards and sacrifices.....it might help you to write things out to be sure of your decision.   

yes I know I want to be healthy and change my life I need too. just sometimes have these thoughts having issues my whole life with food and weight. I would rather worry about other things than food. I also fear change so I'm guessing just something my mind will have to work through as well.  I don't want to be addicted to food I want to enjoy life and be healthy to be able to do all the things in life I want too! 

I have not got my surgery yet but i feel like that . Then i think about the pros im goin to miss trying to tackle a buffet but i will be able to fit in one plane seat when i travel i will miss my starbucks goodies but i can go on a ride at canadas wonderland i can saver a whole bag of chips but i rather beable to bend over and put my socks on with ease or walk up the stares and not feel like my lungs are goin to blow up i had to sit back and think RNYTEA is food really that important that u wish to give up the fun things to do in life NO PUCKING WAY so it reinsures me that i choose my life back.....think about the positive

I'm so glad it's normal, I don't always have these thoughts but they still happen every now and again. yes so many more plus sides loosing weight then being able to eat whatever I want and how much I want. I wanna live my life and not worry about food!!! lol so much more to see and do then eat! good luck to you :)!