Looking for someone that doesn't eat during the day

That is what the doctor told me at the last visit. But I also need to get into better habits before I get the surgery.  I was hoping to meet people that are the same situation as me. 

I am going to be very unpopular here, but I am going to call it like I see it.  

You may not be "eating" during the day -- but something is contributing to a BMI of up over 40.  No one defies the law of physics.

I said all these same things in the 9 months before surgery -- and I wasn't lying.  I was in denial, however.  I was seriously underestimating the actual amount I was eating, both in quantity and in times.  While I wasn't eating "breakfast" -- I was snacking and picking at this and that --- drinking a lot of calories in coffee drinks and beverages in general -- nibbling on calorie dense cheeses and nuts -- or taking a bite of this or that all through the day.  I too ate all "healthy" things.  I wasn't sucking back candy bars or bags of chips.  However, all these little nibbles and snacks never got logged because they were "just a bit of this" or just a drink that I forgot about.  

Additionally, my portion sizes for dinner (my one "meal") were seriously underestimated.  They seemed "normal" to me because frankly, I was used to overeating and what "normal" person weighs all their food on a food scale?  I ate out a lot --- portions in restaurants are 4 to 5 times what we should actually eat -- and I wasn't gorging on fast food or eating "unhealthy" foods -- so it was a mystery why I was so heavy.

I was sure surgery wasn't going to work for me because I ate healthy, didn't eat that much and thought my metabolism was wrecked.  My food log confirmed it! -- because I wasn't actually logging accurately...

As  person who has lost 200 pounds now accurately measuring every single thing that goes into my mouth down to the 10th of an ounce and eating less than 950 calories a day -- I can promise you that it is far fewer calories than you think.  Seriously.  Just in drinking 3 coffees a day with 2 tbs of whole milk a day eats up nearly 100 of my 900 calories.  My vitamin supplements are another 80 calories day.  Now I am left with 700 food calories before actually eating any thing. 

Every obese person I know thinks they are the exception and are eating far less than they are -- and I include myself in that.  We aren't though. 

I would guess that there are some shared truths with you here.  

Good luck.

Thank you for sharing your story.

I do log everything very accurately. I scan what I can and weigh everything. From the tea with honey to any snack I do eat. Even the chocolate bar I have once a month. I don't cheat in logging as I would be just cheating myself.  

I am just looking for other people that are going through the same issues as I mostly see people eating to much and the wrong things is the problem. 

Good luck to you then.

See, I don't ever have to write out an actual response because you are in my head Berry Sister and you say it all EXACTLY as I would.  

Your truth is my truth. 

Thank god for you Ashley.  You keep me sane.

Outstanding post Kat. This should be required reading. Everyone from preops to vet regainers should chew on this for a while.

Something doesn't add up.  

Could you possibly have an internal tumor that weighs 100 lbs that hasn't been diagnosed?  If you eat as little as you claim, something has to account for your BMI of 44.  If I were you, I would ask to have an MRI or CT scan to rule out other causes to your morbid obesity.

Are you sure you're not grazing during the day?

My body was in and still is in and recovering from starvation mode.  I am very healthy other wise. Blood work and scan are clean as a whistle. Even my doctor is surprised.  He said that he figures that my weight is  genetic.  My not eating never helped. 

In the summer I am outside working with my horses, doing horse shows, driving  or doing yard work and don't think to stop to eat.  

The last few months I have been trying to eat more during the day! When I do eat I make good choices and  eat proper choices. I am not saying I am perfect. I do eat the odd wrong thing. I do log everything good and bad. My doctor is really happy with my logging. 

Once again just looking for other people struggling with the same issues 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but "starvation mode" is a myth.