ashamed

My husband thought he was being nice. He cooked homemade burgers for me for dinner. They were delicious. I ate two. Now I feel ashamed that I ate that and deviated from my diet. Went to bed early and depressed. Now I just want to sleep all day because at least if I'm sleeping, I'm not putting Crap in my mouth.

Since you ate 2 I will assume you are pre-op. Instead of being depressed look at why you ate 2 burgers. Try to remember what drove you and make a change. In this journey you will have many bumps and trying to figure out why and change the behaviour will help you far more than sleeping and self hate.

Today is a new day and you can do this

I realize that this may not be a popular answer but here goes. 

This is a long hard journey. Stop beating yourself up about 2 burgers. Shake it off and get out of bed. Staying in bed and feeling depressed or guilty does not do anyone any good especially yourself. Figure out what went wrong so you can do better next time.

Talk with your husband and explain that there are other ways to be nice and other treats you can share.

c. 

We all slip up. It takes guts to share it on here. As the others mentioned, look at why you ate 2 burgers. 

BUT...You can still enjoy a burger in the future as they are too good not to enjoy...but modify it. Lose the bun. The best part about the burger is the meat...enjoy that delicious patty, perhaps with a melted slice of cheese on top with a side of mushrooms (if using swiss). Or have a slice or two of tomatoes or cucumber. Guacamole or tzatziki are great condiment options with a burger patty. 

Hamburgers are one of my go-to items when we go to a restaurant, without the bun. The best one I've had is a chili burger without the bun...beef patty topped with chili, cheese slice and jalapenos. I've even seen burgers offered wrapped in lettuce leaves as an alternative to buns in restaurants.

Wishing you better burger experiences ahead!

Tammy :)

My husband and I were talking about this kind of thing over dinner this evening, about food being "good" or "bad", as if a pile of lettuce -- or two hamburgers, for that matter -- has an actual moral value. 

I'll let you in on a little secret -- food doesn't have a moral value.  It's neither good nor bad and part of this journey is working on shaking off the idea that it does.

We've all been where you are, feeling guilty for eating the burgers and not eating the salad or whatever and feeling like we hardly deserve to live.  It's two burgers, not killing puppies and posting it on the internet.  I would suggest that most "normal people" who don't carry around the food baggage we current and formerly morbidly obese individuals do would eat two burgers and not give it a second thought, while we have to completely freak out about it and use it as an excuse to go completely insane and eat everything in sight -- or not eat for a day, or a week, or a month, as "penance" for being "bad".

I've done both, in the past, before my surgery, and it was a hell of a way to live.

So you made a mistake.  Congratulations on being part of the human race; we all make mistakes every single day.  The point is not in making the mistake but in not learning from it and moving past it.  Making a mistake doesn't make us bad people or stupid people or undeserving of ever having anything good in our lives people -- it just makes us people.

So tomorrow, when you wake up and start digging around in the kitchen for something to have for breakfast, for this one meal -- because all we ever have is this one meal, right now, in the present -- make up your mind to eat something healthy and appropriate, not because it's "on your diet" but because you want to do what is best for you and your health in this moment.  And then make that conscious decision when it's time to have lunch, and dinner, and for Thanksgiving and Christmas and your ninety-fifth wedding anniversary, one meal at a time.  If I may borrow flagrantly from the friends of Bill Wilson, that's how it's done.  One day, one meal, one bite at a time.  Again and again and again.

You made what you obviously consider an inappropriate choice -- but that's all it was.  It's not who you are.

Have courage, and we're here if you need us.

I just want to say what a great group this is. I am so impressed with all the awesome answers here.