Nay Sayers

I have to say that for the most part I have nothing but positive feedback from my co-workers, family and friends...I said for the most part. Then along come the nay sayers. With questions (I use to believe there where no stupid questions, but not so much now) like:

"Are you sure you know what your doing?" To which I answer, "Yep, pretty sure considering that I have been researching and preparing for this for 2 years".

"You know that this is forever?!" To which I answer, "Well I don't think I will live like forever, but this surgery is gong to help me live a longer healthier life"

"Why don't you just diet?" To which I answer, "DUH never thought of that!"

"You know you won't be able to eat that much" To which I answer, " Gee really Captain Obvious, that's sort of the point"

"Why are you having surgery you don't look THAT big?" To which I answer, "It's not about size it's about my health, If I was this size and healthy I probably wouldn't go ahead with it" 

So to all the Nay Sayers, maybe you just don't fully understand the trials of an obese person, and God willing you never will, but  when I open up to you about this MAJOR life event, I would appreciate your love and support, and if you have any questions please ask, but please please please understand that I am fully educated and aware of what I am doing.

Well said.  Only people who are obese understand what you are going through on a daily basis

all the best

I completely hear you.  I am the same, for the most part my family and friends are supportive but not as much as when I first mentioned I was going forward with WLS.  Now that it is almost here, its "are you sure", and same as you Patti, "you dont look that big".  Also my brother in law says well, I like my wife just as she is. GRRRRRRRRRR.   I won't repeat it all but you know the ones.

Another relative is telling me about someone she knows who had complications (which I realize are a possibility) but she tells me this every time she sees me.  It is impossible to educate them because they just dont want to hear it.  

My number one supporter is my husband and he is the one who counts most as we will definitely be doing this together.  He is even thinking about getting a referral too.  I'm still excited and have decided not to share much more with the nay sayers.  Thanks for posting Patti and thanks to the rest for being a great support system.