Follow Up to Worst Day ever

So this is just a follow up to the worst day every.  Turns out I was lucky enough to have two days that were the worst days ever.  But they are done.  I went for a job interview on Friday and will be starting a new job in a few weeks.  Due to this and the fact the nutritionist didn't put me through I'm going to look at starting over at a different center so I won't have surgery for another year or two.  I could have made Humber work with no issues but have decided I'd rather go to the center that is only 30km from my home rather than 95km.  I will continue with all the great changes I have made on my own with no help from nutritionist, social worker or nurse but merely with my own family physician and my family.  I am not impressed with the games that seem to be played because I was honest and didn't lie I get penalized instead of getting more help (too much to explain here).  I am a person of integrity and pride and to be treated the way I was does not sit well with me.  I quit smoking over 10 years ago and made use of the tools and was successful and I will be successful when I have surgery.   My entire life people judge with out knowing me and are always shocked but what I do. 

Is there not a possibiilty that your file can be transferred to the closer centre? It seems a shame to start all over again and further delay the process when you are so motivated.

I do understand your frustration and I think a lot of us can relate to incidents of not being believed or being negatively judged based on our weight.

To have your integrity challenged like that is not fair and I guess it is just a sad statement as to how little trust there is because so many people don't have integrity.

Whatever you decide I trust it will all work out just as it should and we will be here to support  you along the way.

Gosh, that seems drastic - starting all over again at a different centre. You could ask for your file to be transferred to a different centre, therefore avoiding having to repeat all the sessions and appointments you've already done. As for the dietician - I'm sure that one additional visit with her to show all of the recommended changes you have implemented would then have you move forward. If given the choice of delaying a month or starting all over from scratch - well, I guess I'd suck it up and comply with the dietician's expectations and be happy in moving forward as planned instead of starting all over.

I really don't think anyone was "judging" you, Sandra, including the dietician. Something set a red flag for her and she asked you for follow-up. It wasn't a judgement on your integrity as a person, it was a professional call on your food choices/behaviours.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

I had that beeoch at Humber also and I don't care what excuses anybody comes up with regarding her she is just plain miserable. She does not seem to enjoy her job at all and in my opinion I believe she secretly (or not so secretly) hates fat people. I had a few encounters with her through out the process, she did one of the group programs and also my one on one Nut assessment , she has a chilling vibe to say the least but my worst experience with her was at my one month follow up. It started with the fact that she couldn't find my original file, she was very angry ( like I had some control over that or perhaps she thought I snuck in and stole it) so I said maybe she was not looking far enough back I had started the process in 2012 and it took this long for all the different tests and sleep studies and then I could have had surgery in the spring but I put it off until fall by choice because I am a farmer. So then she finds my original appointments from 2012 and says I don't see a reassessment here when was it? I said I didn't have one  I just worked my way through the appointments and when I got approval from Dr Glazier I went back to Dr Hagen and he booked the date for me. So now she is really mad! Oh Dr Hagen she says oh that figures. So then she proceeds to tell me how she is going to get Dr Hagen in crap with the administrator. (I was laughing in my head thinking about her getting a head surgeon in some sort of trouble) She finaly decides we have to move forward with the appointment so I have to tell her what my weight pre opti was and surgery day she whips out her calculator and says in the 6 weeks (including opti) I had lost an average of 4.9Lbs a week, I said " well that's pretty good isn't it? ( feeling a little happier now things are back on track) She says " huh I've seen better! but it is what it is. I guess we will have to live with it." So it never did get any better. I mentioned some of this to Dr Hagen at my appointment with him a few days later (basically to give him the heads up) he was surprisingly apologetic and said he was so sorry that I had to go through that. So that was nice of him he didn't seem to afraid of her hehe!I was really worried about going back for my 3 months check up last week because I am not even close to a 4.9 lb a week average now. I have been having a month long stall. But I didn't get her I got a really nice girl and a nice nurse that said they are mostly concerned with my health and how I felt it was going and If I was happy. Quite the difference. My blood pressure was a little high but the nurse said it was likely that I was worried about meeting up with the last NUT. She was right! So anyway sorry about the long post but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I wouldn't let that person put me off, but if your new plan fits better for you then by all means go for it. I wish you all the best, I know you will succeed whichever way you decide to do it.

Thanks for the feed back.  I honestly believe she was mad at me because I was late due to traffic.  What should have been an 1 1/2 hours took me 2 1/2.  And even though I allowed for extra time the fact that I had to change my clothing before going in to see her delayed things even more.  The other ladies were all very sympathetic but not her.  With the new job it will put me over 130km from the center so making even more difficult to get to appointments.  My family discussed switching centers when we moved and we all agreed that we could make it work, but dealing with someone like that leaves me with no desire to make it work at that location.  And the fact that my car got blocked in my an idiot makes me want to go there even less.   I honestly think they just slow some people down the process cause they can force people out of the program.  This way they get the results they want.

I too had a terrible time with a certain nutritionist at Humber, I have heard that from many people. Unfortunately many have lied because of it. I felt the same way you did. I did go thru with the surgery there and I was going to switch my after care to Guelph which is closer. I was told at the beginning I could do this as Guelph is closer and easier to get to. That would be my advice to you. Just get thru to the surgery since you have come this far and later have your files switched to the center that is closer. I am not sure if I will switch at this point as the last 2 visits I have not seen her. I go again in 2 weeks so I will see what happens. She was nasty and had me in tears over 1 small slip up last easter.  You will get thru it, I just hate to see you start over again now.

Thanks but I'd rather wait and be 100% sure I am happy with the care I will get throughout the entire process.  I was actually speaking with a friend who also had this person and she said she was useless when my friend ran into serious issues.  This person didn't have the time of day to help someone who was dehydrated and starving to death.  I do not want to work with someone like that.  I am a human being and deserve to be treated with respect.   The Social Worker was shocked at how much I have been through and recovered in my life, that I am a strong and confident person.   Most of my issues stem from medications, quitting smoking and having kids all of which played havoc on my system.  And once again I am being put on anther medication for menstrual issues, that they give to people who have anorexia to increase their appetite and make them eat.  Just what I need.