Am I turning into an a$$hole?

Hi there I'm pre-op, but here's my thoughts, I am 47 getting too old to play games and put up with other peoples crap!! I am polite but I speak my mind. I speak up and if there are options I make a choice, I don't just sit back and say "oh whatever is fine". I want what I want!!!  Life is short and we should be able to be happy and be selfish, think about ourselves for once, I feel honoured for the gift this surgery will bring to my life. So you go girl and live your best and happiest life!!! Hope you find a great job that you are appreciated for all you have to give.

Thank you, I am looking at my options.  Wish I had had the energy to do that pre-op and maybe get some practice in!

I found this article to be particularly interesting, especially part 4 on friendships. 

"4. Friendships

Starting and maintaining relationships was easier when I was fat. Women rarely saw me as a rival and were less self-conscious than they are around me today. My larger body made it easier for my peers to let their guard down and be themselves. Because I felt less-than when I was fat, I was way more forgiving and accommodating, and I often edited myself for maximum social appeal.

Friendships today are more likely to feel peppered with insecurities. Confident and candid, strong and outspoken, today I present the real me, and, at times, ruffle the feathers of the sort of people I spent my early life catering to. The friendships that remain require real, sometimes uncomfortable heart-to-heart discussions, and true open-mindedness; they can be exhausting. When I’ve had a long, hard day, I miss the easy, comparatively effortless friendships of yesteryear."

I just read her whole blog and liked it!! I may have to start following her.  Thanks!

I just read her whole blog and liked it!! I may have to start following her.  Thanks!

Great quote and so true. You feel different and others react differently.  Sometimes it's better, sometimes not. 

This is a hormonal change that would have happened anyway at menopause.  Weight loss just got the necessary hormones activated.  I am not a medical person but did spend twenty years doing hair.  I watched many women go from being sweet little doormats to suddenly becoming empowered and tough when they got into their forties.

Those changes were eye-openers for me.  Life will be different from now on.

Well, I will be 40 this year so I guess I am right on track eh?  

Wow!! I'm so glad I am not the only one going through this as well!  I had my surgery the same time you did zizzler and I am totally feeling the same way.  I worry everyday that I have turned into a raging awful person.  I actually say what I feel and I stand up for myself (most of the time.)  Like we really need more emotional crap on our plate right now.  Lol  What a journey!

Omg I swear I look at myself sometimes and I'm like "who is that"?  Maybe it is the increased energy, before I was so exhausted all the time I was happy to just make it through the day.  I feel brave and even though I am smaller, strangely empowered.