So I'm out at the bar tonight...

Thanks Pat! When I'm six months out I would have wine, it's just before that that I'm trying to figure out. But the suggestions about big tips and such are good.

I ask if they have Nestea Zero... If not I order bottled water :-)

I'll have to try Nestea Zero in case it's an option. Thanks!

I always have crystal light packets in my pocket.I will have water with no ice.They never make a big deal about it.I go out a few times a week and bring stuff with me, A lot of people will ge****er with vodka then add the packets of crystal light.

Good trick! Thanks! I'd probably do that if I'm ever at a place that is busier, where no one would notice, lol.

I always do it.I don't care if it is busy or not.I hate to drink plain water.I do even take de-caf tea with me.I only can drink de-caf caffeine makes me nuts.Well nuttier. But I do go to the same places all the time so they do know me.

It is pretty bad that my bartender knows I had the surgery and not my mother.

No, not bad. I don't have a good relationship with my "real" mom, though she did find out about my plans. And people you actually spend time with can know you better than family, in a way.

I should've been more specific....I buy a bottled water, and ask for a glass with ice and lemon slice. Most only charge a buck or two for water, so I leave a tip. I wouldn't feel so bad if your with someone who is buying drinks. I always tip well tho, as most servers earn under minimum wage. 

That's a great idea, thanks Kimmie!