I am so sorry.  I didn't have that happen with weight wise thankfully.  Maybe they are just busy with so many people getting surgery that they are behind.  That is just awful to feel like you are on the back burner and supposed to be eating such a limited diet with no certain surgery date in sight.  Hang in there.  Maybe some others will have some helpful advice for you.

Don't forget to email your co-workers.

I won't be at the meeting because I'll will be getting things ready for a yard sale for my TOPS group.  See you next month

Mary,� I spent all of my adult life thinking "maybe I can lose weight" in one way or another...with Weigh****chers, Atkins, South Beach, Phen Phen,�cutting fat, counting carbs, doing aerobics, going to�the gym.�� In the last 30 years I've probably lost�and regained 20 times....every time putting on an additional 10, 20 or 30 pounds.�

If you have less than 100 lbs to loose, if you have no co-morbidities, if you're active,�if you can still get around and do the things that you need and want to do....then maybe you don't need the surgery.

But, if you are having pain in your back and/or knees, if you are diabetic or even borderline, if you have high blood pressure or sleep apnea.� If you can't keep up with your kids, if you pass up doing things with your friends, family or partner because you don't like the way you look, don't have the energy,��or just feel too damned fat, if you've tried and tried and tried to loose weight and have always failed...well then you�should seriously consider the surgery.�

Of course there are always horror stories,�but Dr. Keith is an excellent surgeon.� Norman Regional is a center for Bariatric�Excellance.�� You should expect�the best possible outcome, not fear the worst.��

After surgery your cravings and tastes for certain foods are going to change.� The surgery forces you to pay attention to what and how you are eating.� It's much easier to stay focused on your diet when you have this tool.� You can, of course, still eat mindlessly...but your pouch will remind you that this is not a good idea.�

I wasted too many years being fat.� Oh I was happy, I had great friends and a wonderful husband....but I passed up on doing a lot of things because of the way I looked and felt.�� Finally about a week before surgery I was getting nervous and having doubts...so I sat down and made out a Pro/Con list.�� For me...and I can't speak for you...the Pro list was LONG and the Con list was only that I was nervous about the surgery.�

I'm 57,� I'm off all my meds,� my knees don't hurt, I actually enjoy shopping for clothes,� I can keep up with my grandson,� I enjoy�getting out and working in the garden,� I can actually get down on the floor and get back up without calling emergency services. LOL.� I enjoy my life.� I never really realized how much my weight had taken away from my life until�I started getting it back.

Good luck on your decision...only you can decide what's best for you.�� If you want to�talk feel free to PM me and I'll give you my home phone number.���

Edited to add: I think what "shorter" did in seeing a counselor and working thru issues is a very smart thing.

I did some thing before I ever went to the surgeon that was beneficial for me: I went to a psychologist for nine months to figure out how & why I got into the mess in the first place. My hope was that I would figure out a way to avoid the surgery, but I realized that I was too far gone to do it on my own. The best I could average was a weekly loss of .5# and I always felt hungry because of my Type II diabetes and the side effects of the oral meds I took. By the time I was done with the therapy I was totally committed to the process. I would do it again, but everone has a slightly different experience.

I was one of the lucky ones and had a insurance company that approved me within a few weeks of  submitting my request for wls....I was at 365 lbs and i had fears I couldnt follow the diet and I had fears I was making the wrong choice by haveing the wls....I even woke up from my surg asking the nurse what the hell had I just done...I had a few bumps in the rd along the way...I can not tolerate the vitiams or the protien shakes...I went trugh so many diffrent vitiams and protiens it wasn't funny. I also had alot of added extra stress on me from the day of surg untill I was almost 9mths post op i was going threw maritrial probs...I still fight head hungery and most of us due... I am a little over 1 year post op and have lost almost 160 lbs and I am less than 40 lbs from my goal wt i set for myself...I will tell you this is scary but for me the benefits out way all my fears...I haven't had any major complications...I take prenatual vitiams and I found 3oz protien shots from walmart and can take both of these with no problem...I work in a hospital and we really dont see to many people with complications...I work with 10 people who have had both the rny and lap band and each of us have done well...I would do it all again because wls has helped me save my life...I am so happy now and I have so musc I am able to do that I was unable to do a year ago...I can play with my kids and take walks with my husband...this was the hardest decision i have had to make and it was the best thing i could have ever done...