Feeling "blue and lost" after surgery

Hi all, boy I don't want to complain and seem ungrateful, but I am just really unhappy right now. I had my RNY on Monday the 9th and everything went very well. I was out of hospital on Wed. morning and physically feel ok. I still hurt most of the time, kinda feel like I am holding my stomach in and its starting to cramp, if that makes any sense. Anyway-the real problem hit me today-I MISS FOOD!! I know that I am not suppose to feel this way, but I do. I think I may be in morning for my old buddy and constant companion-food. Am I crazy? Am I ungrateful for the chance I have been given at a new life? Was I illprepared for the changes? Am I just a big ol loser having a pitty party? Everyone else seems so happy after surgery, what the heck is wrong with me? Thanks for listening.

Hi Jana, Your not crazy and I think that what is happening to you is very normal.It also happened to me. By having surgery we have made it physically impossible to have a relationship with our best friend. No matter what happened in my life I fed it. Happy, sad , mad , glad, whatever the occasion, it called for food. It is good that you have recognized that, but you also have to be very careful, or you will find yourself seeking a new addiction, or a new best friend so to speak. It will also be very important to follow all of the rules that your doctor has set forth for you, don't push the envelope, don't try to cheat, it will be easy right now to do what he says, just do it. I have about 15 more pounds to lose and I have found it impossible, not phsyically, but mentally. It is also really easy for me to gain a few pounds, and I think that is in my head also, and I think that both things are connected to the fact that I lost my best friend. I didn't recognize that food wasn't my friend any more, I learned the hard way, by making myself sick, and it is a very unpleastant thing for me, it was only after that I realized that food wasn't my friend anymore. Hope that this helps, rest assured that your not crazy. Love, Janna -140 19/03/03

You are not crazy, I think most of us feel that way, especially at first. after a while you will realize you can still have your friend over just not so much or so often. Deb 392/316/180

Thanks so much for the kind words and wisdom, it really helped. It is Sunday now and I do feel much better. My stepdaughter came up from Austin to vist us this weekend, which is a good and bad thing. Good because we get to spend wonderful time together and bad because it means that she and my husband will be cooking/eating great food that I can't have. But I am just trying to keep my "eye on the prize" and realize that in the near future I will be thin/healthy for the first time in my life and that I will someday be able to have a bite or two of most anything I want. Moderation is the key. Easier said than done (hehe)! Anyway, thanks again and I look forward to getting to know you all a little better in the future! Jana

Jana: You are soooooo normal. Especially the 1st three weeks after surgery. If you are on a liquid phase for the 1st week and soft foods the 2nd-3rd week. It is so much harder than we could have every imagined it would be. Just know it does not last forever and very soon you will be living life normal again (in smaller portions, of course). I will be 1 year out on the 24th and have now lost 107 pounds. I never thought I would feel like a normal person after having been so overweight for 20 years. Keep the faith and you will be ok. Just know you are having normal feelings and it will get better. Three weeks of a moderated liquid/soft diet is nothing compared to a lifetime of happiness which you will be experiencing so very soon. Look forward to hearing from you and your great successes.

Feeling Blue Is NORMAL. You will be ok. Our best friend does come back... Im just over 2-years out. and the truth is the 1st 8- months is a training period for you new tool. The POUCH... It does get to hold about 1-cup of food depending on what we eat. Always fill up on protien 1st meat when you get to where you can eat it. NO SUGAR Ever. thats been my biggest upset it makes me very ill. But I have learned to get sugar in and thats not good. I just snack on it a little here and there. not cool Please dont ever do it. If I had never started I would of been better off. I didnt eat bread for over 1- year. Meats are very hard to eat. Right now you need to concentate on protien. The best thing I was crazy over for the 1st few months was Taco Bell refried beans. I could eat 1/2 teh container for lunch and the other 1/2 for dinner every day almost. If I can be of any help. Please e-mail me.. Peggy [email protected]