Question?

How do you deal with people who are so closed minded about this surgery? I work in a small office and everyone (except the higher-ups) believes that all I should do is diet and I will lose weight! If only it was that easy!

Don't discuss it with them. If the subject is brought up simply tell them your decision to have WLS is a very personal decision and that if they cannot be supportive of you, then you do not wish to discuss the matter with them. And, me - being the very opinionated person that I am - would tell them to take a flying leap in a pool of donkey dung!!!! That they do not know what my life is like living like this and to not judge me until they have walked in my shoes . . . But that is just me.

I am the same way...very opinionated! But I am trying to hold my tongue and be a good girl.

Cecilia, I chose not to tell anyone about the upcoming surgery except close family members, my DH, DS and DB were the only ones who knew. I didn't want to have to deal with any negative feedback from secondary family and friends. It was my decision and if they didn't like it I didn't want to know about it. For now I'd tell your co-workers that it's a personal decision, with VERY personal reasons and it's not open for debate. After surgery I didn't care who knew. I figured I might as well tell them or they'd think I had cancer or something, with the weight coming off like it did. I've had some complications and now have a chronic lung problem that I'll have from now on, but I feel it's a compromise that I am/was willing to take. I'm 6 months out and now just 21 pounds from my personal goal weight. My surgeon wants me to stop after another 12 pounds then maintain. I'll see how I feel and look when I get there. Good luck with your journey! Happy thoughts, Va 232/153/130 -79 pounds

Thank you Virginia, and good luck on your goal! Cecilia

Cecilia, you got good advice right off the bat!! this is PERSONAL, dont discuss it with them any more. There are SO many nay sayers out there, its no wonder folks hardly talk about this surgery!! You just take care of YOU; you are the ONLY one who understands what its like to live the way you have been living. Its nobody elses business. You take good care hun!! HuggZzz!!