terrified

My date has been set for December the 30th and I am scared to death! My family members keep telling me that I will die and leave my children without a mother. I have never had surgery before and everything has cheaked out great with all of the other Doctors. Can anyone help ease my mind before I chicken out!!!!

Just follow your heart. I know that I was terrified the day of my surgery, but I just put my faith in God and told myself that anything can happen. Life would not be worth living if you never took any chances and this chance will improve your quality of life, so it just may be worth taking. Don't worry, everything will go just fine.

Hi Mandy! Your day is closing in, I'll have to go check your profile and see who your surgeon is, and pray for you both on Tuesday. Your feelings are very normal - you have to make the decision. You have to do what you believe is best for you. Noone else can make that choice for you. I have never regretted or second guessed my decision, and I am grateful to have this second chance at life with my children and husband. Is there anyone close to your area that could meet with you and your family before Tuesday? It was very reassuring for my husband to see some others who had come through surgery and were in different stages on their way to health. Be strong and do what is best for you. I wish I had better words of wisdom...Reading your post made me think of my Great-Aunt. She loved me but was from a different time and always told me that noone would want to love a fat girl. She died before she could the wonderful man I married, but she lived in Fitzhugh for years! She would have been so happy to know that I found a man who loved me for me AND was finally able to find a weapon to help me battle this plague of obesity. Good luck to you!

Well today is the day! Let us know how it went!