I'm on the losers bench but I've been bad

Ok I had my surgery on October the 14th! I am down 13lbs so far. I must admit right off the bat that I have been craving french fries, chips and gummy bears!  I ended up going to walmart hungry and bought a gang of sugar free candy. I bought sal****er taffy, Russel Stovers Chocolate covered marshmallows, Crystal light hard and chewy candy, life savers, peppermints. See what I'm saying "umm hmm" I lost my damn mind. Now that I have this stuff should i keep it and enjoy it every once in a while or just tra****

TRASH IT!!!!

I took your advise and trashed it

I fight the same battle you do!  Trust me.  Too bad they can't do surgery on our brains and not just our stomachs! LOL  You are going to do great.  Just focus on making the most of your honey moon period by creating new healthy habits that will last you the rest of your life.  You can do this!

 I like what Drew Carey said about his weigh loss and how after "going off the wagon" and eating something junky he felt horrible. He then wrote above his mirror. "Crappy food is not a reward, it's a punishment."   
Don't set your self up to fail. Tra**** and check in with your mental health professional. This is more of a mind journey than we realize.

your right I ate out every day before my surgery and candy was an every day thing for me. So this surgery is making me have to learn how to eat again and its not easy. I have to think below the surface of why I want certain things and learn how to stop wanting those things.

amen to that last statement!

It's been a year for me and I've reached the point where I allow myself good sugar free dark chocolate on occasion. However, I asked my husband to put it away and he gets me a piece after dinner when I want one. That way, I know I'll only have one.

The best things I did for myself were work on head issues with a psychologist before the surgery, attend support group meetings 2x per month, read about healthy eating, increase my activity level and follow my doctor's eating plan. You don't have to do it all at once, but you should have some spare time that was previously used for acquiring food, consuming food, thinking about food, cooking, etc. Now you'll need to replace those habits with new habits.

Best wishes!